By Evan Imber-Black, published on July 1, 1998 – last reviewed on April 26, 2013
We live in a culture whose messages about secrecy are truly confounding. If cultural norms once made shameful secrets out of too many events in human life, we are now struggling with the reverse: the assumption that telling secrets–no matter how, when, or to whom–is morally superior to keeping them and that it is automatically healing. My own experience, however, has shown me that telling secrets in the wrong way or at the wrong time can be remarkably painful–and destructive.
By spearfruit, published today
Nobody Should Share Everything – We Have To Have Some Secrets
My personal believe for me is that some activities, behaviors and past experiences; some of those characteristics of me should be kept secret and only revealed to those closest to me or no one at all. My blog is a step to reveal some of me to whoever is interested in reading about me and my life. When starting this blog I accepted the challenge to myself to reveal the true me; my faults, my struggles, my bad behavior and my short comings. I was afraid of this as I was uncertain of the response, but would anyone really care? This feeling is intensified when I eventually provide my blog site to my friends and especially to my family.
There are some past experiences I believe I should keep secret and to myself and I am going against the norm; for me I do not believe telling my secrets is morally superior. I do not believe me telling my secrets would bring automatic healing, but instead would serve no purpose. Over the course of the next several months I will expose some of me, my thoughts, my behaviors, occasional opinions and some characterizes of me that were once a secret but no longer a secret.
For me I should not share everything –
I have to have some secrets.