I have been ‘In Love’ with three people in my life. Being in more relationships than I want to remember, saying ‘I Love You’ and meaning it were not always the same. One interesting aspect of the three people I have been ‘In Love’ with; all were born in the month of August.
So my thought was to write about why these 3 people born in August are the ones I was/am ‘In Love’ with. I decided to research the astrology websites in search of the clue as to why my astrology sign and the astrology signs in August would be compatible as this would be the reason I was/am ‘In Love’ with these people. The results of my research did not conclude with any significant details as the information appeared to be true – but not really interesting to write about – hum, I need a different approach.
I Googled ‘what is being in love’ and I like the results. From the elitedaily.com website, I found a nice article titled ‘10 Real Differences Between Being In Love And Loving Someone’. I am not going to copy and paste the whole article, click the title and it will take you to the article. I will list the differences –
When you’re in love with someone, you want this person. – When you love someone, you need this person.
When you’re in love with someone, your emotions are always on high. – When you love someone, your emotions settle and then fluctuate.
When you’re in love with someone, you’re aiming to reach some goal. – When you love someone, you aren’t rushing to reach the finish line.
When you’re in love with someone, you think you care more about that person more than you actually do. – When you love someone, you care about that person more than you think.
When you’re in love with someone, you can fall out of love with that someone. – When you love someone, you never really stop loving that someone.
Ok, after reading the differences and the reasons behind them I have decided that I have been ‘In Love’ with 2 people and currently ‘Loving’ 1 person.
My first ‘In Love’ was my wife, the mother of my 3 sons and based on the article – I believed I wanted this person in order to be happy; my happiness literally depended on it. We came down from the ‘High’ of being ‘In Love’ and our goals were no longer the same; I was lost and confused and this person gave me something I needed at that time in my life.
My second ‘In Love’ was the first long term relationship after my marriage and based on this article – I have the same reasons as my first ‘In Love’, I wanted this person to in my life – as a partner for life, but we became disconnected and parted ways a very long time. I believe everyone comes and goes in our lives for a reason and there is something to learn from them and I learned something from this person.
The person I am ‘Loving’ is my current partner and based on this article – I need this person in my life to share the ‘Highs’ and the ‘Lows’, and we continually build upon what our relationship is about and to strengthen our bond indefinitely. This person when away, not within range of seeing or hearing, I miss and think about and this reminds me how much I ‘Love’ this person and will never stop loving this person.