Smiling Faces Sometimes – they don’t tell the truth!
Oh how I know this is true. I know I am not the only one who has been lied to, cheated on, stabbed in the back, taken for granted and used.
From inc.com; ‘5 Ways to Recover From Being Cheated, Lied To, or Manipulated’ –
Been Taken Advantage of? It Just Means You’re Honest
It’s happened to us all, one time or another. We’ve put our trust in someone who didn’t deserve it, and found out later we were being deceived. Whether the deceiver was a spouse, partner, family member, business partner, or employee, we feel betrayed and hurt. But even worse, we feel responsible. “What’s wrong with me that I allowed this to happen?” we wonder.
Nothing, it turns out. If you’ve been taken for a ride by a talented liar or master manipulator, all it means is that you’re an honest person.
The article continues with some important information about how to deal with you/me being taken advantage of and concludes with the following –
If having been deceived keeps you distant from other people, then you’ve let the liar change who you are and how you live in the world. You’ll have let them steal what should matter to you the most. And you’ll have given those lies more power than they deserve.
My life has included people lying to me, cheating on me, taking me for granted and using me. I am a decent person; honest, hardworking, trusting, respecting, and most importantly forgiving. The forgiving may take some time because wounds take time to heal. In my years I have experienced friends stabbing in my back, lovers taking me for granted and cheating on me and other’s using me. I do not like to experience these feelings as it always results in me losing trust in others. It also results in me pulling back and not offering me; my honesty and my respect for others. I do not like to pull back from others, but I also do not like to be used, taken advantage of, lied to and hurt.
There was an event where words were spoken in response to a situation. A friendship was broken and words are no longer spoken between us. Forgiveness on my part will take some time and the deceit has caused me to become withdrawn and distant from others. I allowed this liar to change who I am and how I live in this world. I allowed this liar to steal what matters to me and I have given the lies more power than they deserve. I have become unsociable, isolated and not willing to help others as I once did.
I WILL overcome these feelings of hurt and deceit and be cautious and remind myself smiling faces sometimes, they don’t tell the truth.