I have trust issues! I wrote in my post ‘Smiling Faces Sometimes’ about being lied to, cheated on, stabbed in the back, taken for granted and used.
This is why I have trust issues! How can I trust others when I am the one being hurt by others?
I know there are people out there in this world that I can trust; my partner is one of them. I am one of the most trusting people you will ever meet, I am honest (sometimes not a good trait to have), I am willing to lend a helping hand (not so much so now due to certain current situation – this will change) and reliable (even when I do not want to be). I believe my trust issues came about due to me expecting others to be as trusting as me. These others were mostly my ex’s – wife and partners of the past. I in no way am here to bash them or write bad things about them – that is not the purpose of this post – and they are in the past and have been forgiven by me – let’s move on.
The website www.elitedaily.com has an article titled ‘5 Signs You Have Trust Issues That Will Ruin Your Healthy Relationship’
You can read the full article by clicking the above article title link; to highlight here are the 5 Signs –
You check his/her phone
You think of worst-case scenarios
Your lease is tight
You test your love
I have done all on this list in the past with past relationships and it was difficult to let go of these when I entered my current relationship over 12 years ago. I struggled with trusting my current partner due to the history of my past relationships. But I realized early in the relationship he is a person to be trusted, and I trust him with my life. I am fortunate to have someone in my life I can truly trust when I still have trust issues with others. There are still those people out there who lie to me, stab me in the back, take me for granted and use me. But not my partner; and he is the most important person in my life…and I trust him.
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