Do you have one song that you can truly say is your most favorite song in the world?
I do, that song is ‘Killing me softly with his song’, sung by Roberta Flack and released in 1973.
You know I love the music from the 1970s. So what made this song my most favorite song in the world? In 1973 I was a 13 year old boy in 7th grade and going through puberty. Was there something that occurred at that time at that age that made this song part of me; a song that I now consider my favorite song in the world? Was there an important event in these early teen years that I perhaps subconsciously relate this song to?
I mentioned in several past posts that I was sexually violated as a child by an adult male. I choose to use the words ‘sexually violated’ instead of ‘sexually abused’. My memory has faded on the amount of times the violation took place, but the last time it occurred continues to be vivid in my mind today. I do not recall ever going into detail with anyone about the memory that is still with me. Could it be this event is somehow related to this song?
slate.com has an article titled ‘Neural Nostalgia – Why do we love the music we heard as teenagers?‘ and includes the following –
The period between 12 and 22, in other words, is the time when you become you. It makes sense, then, that the memories that contribute to this process become uncommonly important throughout the rest of your life. They didn’t just contribute to the development of your self-image; they became part of your self-image—an integral part of your sense of self.
First, some songs become memories in and of themselves, so forcefully do they worm their way into memory. Many of us can vividly remember the first time we heard that one Beatles (or Backstreet Boys) song that, decades later, we still sing at every karaoke night. Second, these songs form the soundtrack to what feel, at the time, like the most vital and momentous years of our lives. The music that plays during our first kiss, our first prom, our first toke, gets attached to that memory and takes on a glimmer of its profundity. We may recognize in retrospect that prom wasn’t really all that profound. But even as the importance of the memory itself fades, the emotional afterglow tagged to the music lingers.
So could it be this song is significate to the memory of the last ‘sexual violation’ that took place and is so vivid in my mind today?
stackexchange.com has the following –
What does “killing me softly” mean?
In Killing Me Softly, the singer (or lyricist) is talking about being overcome with emotion while watching another singer. Whether that emotion is joy, sorrow, lust, or some combination of moving emotions is up for interpretation. We do know that, as the musician strums, it resonates with the singer’s pain, but whether that pain is alleviated or worsened isn’t really explained. All we know is that the killing is happening softly – which could be a synonym for gently, or it could be referring to the singer’s soft voice. I’d wager that the original composer intended for this three-word phrase to have a built-in oxymoron of sorts; some are bound to find it poetic, while others are bound to find it confusing.