Several weeks ago David Bowie died. I read several other blogger’s posts about how they felt about his life and his death; and then there were the responses from people across the world. Some people were in tears about his passing and this I can relate to. I personally did not cry over David Bowie’s death but I have cried over other well-known people’s death.
This event had me thinking about why people cry when well known people die and it brought back a few memories.
I remember the day Elvis Presley died; it was August 16, 1977 and I was 17 years old. I can remember as if it were yesterday, every detail is still intact in my mind when I heard the news.
It was a hot day, being August in the southern United States, it is hot. It was late afternoon and I was getting into my car to go to work. The radio was on and the announcement was made. I was still in the driveway at the time and I quickly ran into the house to tell my mom. Upon hearing the news, she started crying.
Over a decade later on April 26, 1989, Lucille Ball died. I was devastated and started to cry; this was upsetting news to me.
Less than a decade later on August 31, 1997, Princess Diana died. I was again devastated and started to cry; this was upsetting news to me. Over a decade later on June 25, 2009, Farrah Fawcett died. That same year on September 14 Patrick Swayze died, than two years later on February 11, 2012, Whitney Houston died. I again was devastated and started to cry; this was upsetting news to me. And then there is Robin Williams, Natalie Cole, Leonard Nimoy, Omar Sharif, Dean Jones and the list goes on.
laurajack.com has an article titled ‘Why do we cry when famous people die?‘ and includes the following –
This begs the question, why do we cry when famous people die?
As they say at the Grief Recovery Institute, we do know them, we just haven’t met them in person. We all have an emotional relationship with people who we admire, and perhaps even hope to meet them one day. Therefore, when they die, we grieve because we have a emotional relationship with them that feels incomplete.
Grief is part of our evolution as humans. Without loss and grief, we don’t grow. Experiencing sadness, heart-ache, fear or any other emotion, is part of life, as hard as it may be sometimes. It is what allows us to continue to transform.
So, whether we lose a family member or a person we admired, grief is normal. Allow yourself and others to feel and be compassionate and loving because that is what we need to heal.