Throwing memories away

Several weeks ago, I went through boxes of belongings and started throwing memories away.  With the upcoming planned move, the downsizing is taking place and things are being rid of.

In my post ‘The ball is rolling’, I wrote the following –

As you know, several garage sales took place last year and additional ones are on the calendar for March.  With downsizing from a 3,800 sq. ft. home to a smaller one comes downsizing furniture and possessions.  We have several large furniture items that we are willing to sell and not take with us, including a baby grand piano, 2 large wall units, a couple of bedroom sets, dining table sets, sofas, refrigerators and washer & dryer.

Then there are indoor live plants, nick-knacks, pictures, older television sets, clothes – you get the idea.

In today’s post, I write the following –

The boxes of memories needed to be reduced in size.  There are those pictures of old relationships that are no longer needed and so they are thrown away.  There are those certifications and awards from past jobs, past organizations that are no longer needed and so they are thrown away.  All of these memories being thrown away are moments in time, but no longer relevant today.  It makes no sense to hang on to them, the past memoires; they no longer serve a purpose, no longer needed and they are taking up space.

From there is an article titled ‘Letting Go of Sentimental Items’ and includes the following excerpts –

I am not my stuff; we are more than our possessions.

Our memories are within us, not within our things.

Holding on to stuff imprisons us; letting go is freeing.

I don’t think sentimental items are bad, or evil, or that holding on to them is wrong; I think the danger of sentimental items (and sentimentality in general) is far more subtle. If you want to get rid of an item, but the only reason you are holding on to it is for sentimental reasons—and if it is weighing on you—then perhaps it’s time to get rid of it, perhaps it’s time to free yourself of the weight. That doesn’t mean you must get rid of everything, though.

Yes there are some sentimental items I am throwing away – memories of old relationships, memories of awards for dedication to my job and certifications received for my desire to learn and to grow.  But it is time to let go, to move on and these items will no longer be with me physically, but the memories will stay within me forever.

As the process continued, I went from 4 boxes to 1 box, throwing many items away that no longer serve a purpose to hang on to.

These moments in time – no longer relevant – no longer needed – no purpose to keep them – throwing memories away.

Hallmark thinks differently –

39 thoughts on “Throwing memories away

  1. 2015 was the year of the GREAT DOWNSIZE AND MOVE for me. From a big old southern lady house to a move across country to a very modest townhouse. It is quite an emotional merry go round as a lifetime accumulation of stuff is decided to keep or let go. As I look back at the entire time it was really a healthy thing to do, and I still have quite a few boxes of stuff in the garage that need sorting through.

    A great post and I wish you all the very best in your great stuff purge.

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    • Thank you JoHanna, it is difficult at times to rid of the stuff, but the time has come to concentrate on enjoying each and every day and enjoying life. The stuff is not important. Thank you for reading and commenting – I hope your day is a good one. 🙂

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  2. The memories will be with you forever, it is the possessions you don’t necessarily need to hang onto…maybe some, but not all. I know it is quite a huge thing to do, but well done. It is a healthy move on your part, and a healthy move for you to now move on with the next chapter of your life.

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  3. Memories in your mind are always the best. And I have a plaque on my home that says “the thing I love most about my home is who I share it with.” So it’s not about the stuff. It is our family and our friends that share our space that is best. Cleanse and declutter away. Always feels good. 😊

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  4. Terry, you were kind enough to comment on this subject on my site late last year. If I may I will now offer it here for your readers…some years back from Craig Wilson, formerly of USA Today…

    Think You Need More Stuff? Just Say Baaah.

    By now most New Year’s resolutions have bitten the dust. Lose weight. Stop smoking. Get a new wife. All just memories. But one remains for me: to simplify my life. It’s an ongoing quest, not so much a new resolution. I’ve written about it before. Buy less, play with the dogs more, let the Type A’s zoom by in their BMWs on their way to their McMansions. I’ll just be content with what I have.
    Easier done, of course, when you have enough. Money, that is. But how much is enough? The March issue of O magazine asks that question. Since I had written about the same topic not that long ago I was curious to see what Oprah’s take was. She invited a number of “writers, thinkers and financial experts” to share their thoughts. One said materialistic people were more likely to be depressed and anxious. Never having been a big consumer that made me happy. One said Europeans have the right idea by using more time to play than work. Never having been a European that made me sad. And another said the first question everyone should always ask about a purchase is this: Is it a “need” or a “want”? It’s almost always a want. Put it back on the shelf.

    But what I thought were the most interesting comments came from George Kinder, founder of the Kinder Institute of Life Planning, who says we earn three times as much as our grandparents did, yet we’re not any happier. He then asked two simple questions: If you had only 24 hours left who did you not get to be? What did you not get to do? I found the questions almost cruel. He says they hit bedrock because what they really ask is: What’s profoundly meaningful to you? Have you been wasting your life making money when important things such as your family, your community, your “spirit” have been ignored? Most of us don’t think about our “spirit” on a daily basis. Sad but true, we always use the excuse that we don’t have the time. We’re too busy making money, making deadlines and making sure the kids are wearing matching shoes, the groceries are bought, the bills paid, the bed made. We always seem late for an important date.

    We are also fools. One of my Christmas presents this year was a little toy lamb that stands on four spindly black legs. On its white and curly side is written but one word: Simplify.

    I put it on the windowsill above the kitchen sink so I could see it every day. And there it stands, spreading its message morning, noon and night, It’s the loudest lamb I’ve ever heard. It seems to know when I’m about to do something stupid, buy something I don’t need, keep something I’ll never use.


    It has become a daily mantra. It follows some advice a reader shared with me. She attached it to her e-mail, as if an afterthought:

    If it doesn’t breathe, it doesn’t matter.

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    • Thanks Bruce, I remember reading this and I very much relate to it. This is the reason we are downsizing – too much time in work and material things and now that we are retired, the focus will be on us enjoying our days. The downsizing is a process, so much stuff – but progress is being made. Thanks for your comment, this is something we all can live by.

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  5. I am loathe to throw away certain things including old love letters and work certificates. I intend to scan the ones I really could discard and start clearing out boxes. We already did downsize some years ago when we moved to Egypt and then to the US. It is cathartic and I hope it will be for you, too.

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  6. We’re not downsizing, but I am getting rid of a lot of stuff—books, furniture, white goods and such. Luckily there are refugee migrants arriving in town and they can use many items. Nice to feel things are going to those who need them.

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    • That is wonderful you are helping others in need of them. The things I threw away are more of the personal items, that no one would use. We have had garage sales and once that is over, everything else will be donated. Thank you for reading and commenting. I hope your day is lovely! 🙂

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  7. On honeymooon with my first husband my camera broke ruining a reel of film – I was distraught but he said quite simply ‘you have the memories – if you can’t remember if then it wasn’t worth the picture in the first place’. Years later I made a business out of ‘house doctoring’ and a huge part of the process for all my clients was the ‘declutter’ and clear out … I have quoted him many times – they were and remain wise words. That, however, does not in itself make the process easy and it is good to read an account of one who is going through the process of letting go and moving on and letting the memories settle in the special part of the mind that is their perfect fit 🙂

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  8. I believe your memories are stored in your heart for ever… thing I love about WordPress is how reading all the different blogs have been bringing back memories I have stored away in the depths of my heart….some good and some bad….I knew someone who was cleaning out there home, she took pictures of all the items she felt she could not live without and put them in a album and disposed of all the material items….this helped her a great deal….glad your getting through the boxes,,,,and really happy you got the closets painted….kat

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  9. You have to get rid of things as you are moving.Every six months, I’m in a cleaning spree and throw away all those things which are no longer needed. Just as you’ve mentioned, photographs, old gifts (which are there only for the sake of memories). I think it’s rightly said, memories are best to keep in your mind and in words. There’s no point keeping them in the stack room. They only would take space of the house, not the heart…. 🙂

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  10. 👍I enjoyed reading the comments as well as your post. It seems that a lot of us, including me, all have the same problem of too much clutter. It just seems very hard to get rid of things that are still useful. But I have a double garage that I need to empty and an office. When I tackle that job soon I will remember your post. Thank you.

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  11. I used to keep hold of “shit” for years until I realised it was for nought. It can never bring a person back, never bring the happiness you felt back and serves only to keep you living in the past.
    I found myself doing its with emails and the likes even have a good clear out there as well because keeping hold of stuff only hurts the head because the heart wants to remember.

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  12. It’s about deciding what’s really important and focusing on it, staying attuned to it, and making it a part of every day. You just don’t know how much time you have.

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