Marriage to Us

In my post ‘But I am not an activist‘, I wrote the following –

That social change last year; was not important to me personally; our thinking was to continue our lives as we had the previous 12 years.  Why change, when the change was not needed in our relationship?

In today’s post, I write the following –

Marriage, Institution, Merger, Alliance, Match, Coupling, Pledging, Association, Union has an article ‘History of Marriage’ that begins with the following –

Most ancient societies needed a secure environment for the perpetuation of the species, a system of rules to handle the granting of property rights, and the protection of bloodlines. The institution of marriage handled these needs.

The article continues with discussing different varieties of marriage; marriage during different periods of history and concludes with the following –

Many people hold the view that regardless of how people enter into matrimony, marriage is a bond between two people that involves responsibility and legalities, as well as commitment and challenge. That concept of marriage hasn’t changed through the ages.

November of last year – it is several months since my week’s occurrence with my body.  I just found out my health insurance is cancelled related to nothing to do with me.  My health insurance is through the Healthcare Marketplace and there was a communication error between them and my health insurance company.  I now will need to wait until the first of the year because this issue will not be corrected by December 31.  I also find out my insurance premiums will be increasing substantially the next year.  With the already high deductible plan, the cost to me will be significant if I do have a serious illness taking place within my body.

So the partner at the time performs some research and what he thought was not possible is actually possible.  I am sitting outside and he approaches me and says “We should get married; I can have you on my insurance.”  “Really?”, I responded.  And that was the proposal.

In my post ‘But I am not an activist‘, I concluded with the following –

Then came a time, an event, an occurrence where this social change would benefit us.  But I am not an activist – I live my life trying to be the best person I can be and to be an example for others.

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In today’s post, I conclude with the following –

That day with that proposal, we decided to become married.  He did not have to marry me and I did not ask him to, but he did.  As a result my health care is considerably less in cost than what it could have been.

We became married due to the benefits of marriage.  Marriage is a piece of paper that brings benefits for those that have entered this agreement.  But ultimately it was the responsibility and commitment of our love and desire to be together for always that brought marriage to us.


40 thoughts on “Marriage to Us

  1. We are also not political. Our decision to marry was out of concern for our children as we were moving from a very liberal state to a very conservative state. As the judge married us he said, “You know this marriage will not be recognized in your new state?” We told him we understood but that even though we had been together 16 years at that time we were marrying to secure the recognition of our children as both of ours if something should happen to us in the new state. No matter why you got married you are right – it is the responsibility and commitment of your love and desire to be together that brought marriage to you!

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    • Congratulations on the 16+ years, that is wonderful. What ever the reasons for marriage, if there is a benefit for someone whether me in this case or your children in your case – I am glad the opportunity as been given to us. I appreciate your comment – have a great Friday! 🙂

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  2. That is the best reason I can think of, to get married. Part of our vows remind us that we must be there for our spouses in sickness and health. Although it was a pragmatic decision it showed deep love on your husband’s part to care for you so much.

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  3. Terry, the wife and I are set to commemorate 33 years of marriage next month. Marriage certainly has been much more than that piece of paper to us also. You sound as lucky as well. Have a great weekend!

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  4. My husband would approve of that proposal and not because he is unromantic. He is the epitome of romance in his own unique way which i happen, in my own unique way to adore. But practicality, pragmatism should play its part too. Here’s to the two of you, your reduced health care costs and the attendant lessoning of worry therefore freeing you to enjoy your love far more 🙂

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