Life begins out of my comfort zone

A couple of weeks ago, the American Idol series ended.  I missed the first season, but I faithfully watch season 2 to this ending season, the series finale.

Even if you are not a fan of American Idol, you have got to admit there were some good artists that came from this TV series.  These were people from all walks of life who took a step, a journey and chance to see if they could do something and to be something.  Some made it and others did not.  But the one common factor of all these thousands upon thousands of people over the years of American Idol had in common, they stepped out and took a chance.

On one of the episodes this past final season, a contestant performed with a song they were not necessary comfortable with, a song not usually in their genera.  Upon the completion of their singing, Jennifer Lopez praised the contestant for the performance and said something interesting.  She said “Life begins when stepping out of your comfort zone.”

In July of last year, Gary and I went on our first trip of 4 to Florida to find the next location that we would call home.  Upon our return home I wrote a post ‘The Home Comfort Zone‘, and I wrote the following –

To grow and to live, I must move from my comfort zone and let go of the familiar and let go of the past.  Is there a magic to this process of movement from static to dynamic?  What will be waiting for me during the process?  What will be waiting once completed?  What if I fail to leave the comfort zone because of fear?  What will and what if should not be in my vocabulary, these are fear words that keep me from moving from my comfort zone.

The results of moving from my comfort zone I believe will be living a happy life.  It will be tough as I am set in my ways, but old habits can be deleted from me and new habits created.  These new habits will be of excitement, undertaking something different, meeting people and making new friends.

In my post ‘our travel adventure‘, I wrote the following –

So the house is on the market now for 2 weeks and we are in the process of searching for an RV and a new truck to take us across the United States.  We are in planning mode and plotting our trip to take us to the end of the year.  Where will our travels take us?

I conclude today’s post with the following –

I will leave the home comfort zone once the current home is sold.  I will leave my set ways, my current habits and start anew.  I will do this: but I will admit I have some uncertainty and some fear.  But then again if I do not try, my life will not begin again.  The time is ticking, am I ready?  The current home is on the market and ready to be sold, am I ready?  The decision has been made, am I ready?

Life begins out of my comfort zone, am I ready?

our travel adventure

In my post ‘Why Move Now‘, I wrote the following –


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My husband and I are very ready to move on – we have been in a rut for some time now and this change is needed for both of us.  There are a few decisions to be made concerning the next living situation, but the location is finalized and so our excitement grows every day as we get closer to the list date of our current home.

In our next location, we look forward to exploring more and to be excited about life once again.  We are ready to leave this current chapter and start the new one.  We would like to travel more, meet new friends, and become healthier and just live life again.

In my post ‘The Curveball‘, I wrote the following –

Here comes the curveball!  Upon our trip to Vero Beach, Florida last week, Gary & I started thinking about ‘Plan B’.  Oh, I never told you about ‘Plan B’, because I thought we were set on ‘Plan A’. ‘Plan A’, is moving to Vero Beach, Florida and we had decided to do that and that is the reason for our recent trip there.


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Now we are rethinking this and thinking about ‘Plan B’.  The placing of the current home on the market in 2 weeks will take place and the selling within the next several months will take place, but the moving to Vero Beach, Florida may not take place: at least not now – maybe later – but not now.

In today’ post I write the following –

After some soul searching and research, we have decided what our next steps are.  We decided ‘Plan B’; but I have not told you about ‘Plan B’.  ‘Plan B’ is we are traveling the United States for a while before we settle down.  Will that settling down be in Vero Beach?  Maybe or maybe not.  After visiting Vero Beach, the second time, we felt we may get back into that same rut.  Buying another home and having the same responsibilities regarding it would mean we are not doing anything different and we would be doing the same thing, just somewhere else.  And though we would be somewhere different and we would do some traveling; we still felt we would not be on a total adventure.  This is where ‘Plan B’ comes in – our travel adventure – the traveling the United States and exploring and experiencing and meeting new friends and living life again.


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So the house is on the market now for 2 weeks and we are in the process of searching for an RV and a new truck to take us across the United States.  We are in planning mode and plotting our trip to take us to the end of the year.  Where will our travels take us?

I will end this post with a sentence I wrote in my post ‘The Curveball‘ –

I am being thrown a curveball; therefore you also are being thrown a curveball.

More to come on your curveball – wait for it!

The Potato Eaters


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75 years before I was born – The Potato Eaters creation began and took almost a year to complete.

What does The Potato Eaters have to do with my blog?  Well, some crazy dude decided poor ugly people are great subjects to paint.  Lucky for him, his craziness made for a very creative mind.  Yes, I am referring to Vincent van Gogh. article ‘New study claims to find genetic link between creativity and mental illness’ includes the following –

The notion of the tortured artist is a stubborn meme. Creativity, it states, is fuelled by the demons that artists wrestle in their darkest hours. The idea is fanciful to many scientists. But a new study claims the link may be well-founded after all, and written into the twisted molecules of our DNA. article ‘Why genius and madness are connected’ includes the following –

Many of history’s most celebrated creative geniuses were mentally ill, from renowned artists Vincent van Gogh and Frida Kahlo to literary giants Virginia Woolf and Edgar Allan Poe. Today, the fabled connection between genius and madness is no longer merely anecdotal. Mounting research shows these two extremes of the human mind really are linked — and scientists are beginning to understand why.

I do not consider myself a very creative person, but yes I do consider myself sometimes to be mentally ill.  The major depression as a young man has left and never to come back again.  I do have my days that I feel ‘down’, but not depressed – though I may say I feel depressed.  I do feel however; I continue to have a mental illness.  I lose control of myself, I am a control freak, I am OCD, ADD, and I feel I have Borderline Personality Disorder.  But am I creative?  I believe that it is within me and I can be.  I may never paint a The Potato Eaters and sculpt a David or compose a Second Symphony, but I have created some awesome Christmas displays consisting of over 26,000 lights synchronize to music.  I have helped in creating some beautiful landscaping and my writing of my blog is decent.

It may be the bit of craziness in me has helped me to be creative. has the following –

In May of 1890, after a couple of years at the asylum, he seemed much better and went to live in Auvers-sur-Oise under the watchful eye of Dr. Gachet. Two months later, he died from what is believed to have been a self-inflicted gunshot wound “for the good of all.” During his brief career, he did not experience much success, he sold only one painting, lived in poverty, malnourished and overworked.

As a young man I made those attempts to end my life thinking it was “for the good of all”.  I am still here on this earth with a little creativity and a little mental illness.

Will I be well known someday like Vincent van Gogh?  No I do not think so: I have no The Potato Eaters to leave behind.

He makes me want to be the best I can be.

He makes me want to be a better person.  He makes me want to be the best I can be.


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Why is this?

There is an article on the website that lists signs your relationship is making you a better person and includes the following –

You find yourself making more and more tiny compromises—about which type of movie to watch, or what time to eat dinner—without feeling at all bitter.

Your main need might just be to meet their needs. And why not? You’ve spent enough years focused entirely on number one.

Overwhelmed by gratitude, you catch yourself saying “thank you” with more enthusiasm than necessary—to people who hold open doors, compliment you, or look friendly in general. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

You want to return the Universe’s favor, so you act kindly towards everyone, even not-so-nice strangers. It takes way more than an annoying street performer who gets in your face on the subway or a rude waiter to make you angry.

You’re drunk on Love Kool-Aid and you know it, but you’re not embarrassed. You’re desperate to share the joy running through your veins.

You’re more motivated than ever to exercise and eat healthy because you have more reason than ever to live longer.

Your general outlook is incredibly positive. Bad things definitely happen, but there’s so much good in the world, too. You know this because it led you to your lover.

Really?  That was not quite what I had in mind when writing this post.  For me my relationship is making me a better person because I want to be a better person for him.  He deserves a better person to be in his life to be his partner in life and to be his spouse, his support and his love.  This is why he makes me want to be the best I can be – to be a better person.  I know relationships are about 2 people and yes, I am a control freak at times and make it all about me.  I am working on this, because it is not always about me or should not always be about me.  I am working on this, because I want to be a better person for him.

He makes me want to be the best I can be.

Why is this?

Could it be love, devotion, dedication or commitment?  Well it may be a little of all – whatever the reason, it is good for me.  It is good for me because I want to be good for him.  I want to be the best for him, a better person; the best I can be.


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He makes me want to be the best I can be and I am a better person because of him.

Music & Words Award

I am running behind on responding to my award nominations – my apologies.  Awhile back I was nominated for another award.   The award Music & Words was bestowed on me by Brooke over at theutopiauniverse.  I encourage you to go over and visit Brooke’s magnificent blog.

Music & Words Award

The rules are:

Link back to the person who nominated you

Answer these questions with words and music

Pass the award to 5 bloggers who inspire you with posts about music & words.

Show the award on your blog

Quote these 5 rules and award icon in your post.


What does music mean to you?

Music to me is memories.  I do not listen to current music very often: I am stuck in the ‘70’s.  I have a category on my blog titled ‘My 70’s Music Collection’ and several of my posts have a music video associated to them.  I have many memories from the 1970s; good and bad and the music from that time brings these memories back to me.  And from these memories I write the posts.

What is your first music related memory?

Honestly I do not know.  I remember my mom and dad listening to Tom Jones & Engelbert Humperdinck and others of the day – this would be the late 1960s & early 1970s.

What’s the first album you purchased yourself?

I have no idea!  I remember the most important CD I brought; The Hits – Chapter One.  Do you remember why?

What’s the latest music you’ve purchased?

I have not purchased music in many years.  Sorry call me cheap, but I feel no need to ‘buy’ music when I can listen to it free.

Your guilty pleasures?

I have no pleasures that I feel guilty about.  Sorry, I live my life without regret and guilt.  Some of you may remember why this is my most favorite song in the world!

Here are my nominees for this award –


Joyce over at Poppies and Popcorn

David over at Life and Random Thinking

Maniparna over at SCATTERED THOUGHTS

Bernadette over at HADDON MUSINGS

You do not have to accept this award, but it is an opportunity to learn about your musical side.  Once again I would ask you go visit Brooke over at theutopiauniverse.

Thank you again Brooke, and I hope everyone enjoyed my music side.

It’s about you – not me

My words are my own and those are about me.

When I started my blog, my intention was to write about me and my life.  I have done so with honesty, at times reaching deeply inside to relive and remember emotions of long ago.

My honesty is from my heart and my soul and it is the truth as I see it.  I can be blunt, I can be direct, I can be resonating and I can be lighthearted.

I am a human with many different fluid aspects, that have changed over time and I have evolved over time and continue to do so.

My words are my own and those are about me.

These words in my posts are short images of events and experiences and thinking that take place in the past and in the present.

To read and to understand can be difficult at times.

To read and to formulate a thought is achieving a purpose on my part.

My words are my own and those are about me.

I write words with never intent to offend.

I write posts with never intent to upset.

Follow the whole me and not part of me; for one post does not describe me.

Follow the whole me and not reject what I have to say: for I have reasons, I have motives.

My words are my own and those are about me.

Your thoughts, your comments are important to me.

Your energy, your friendship brings wonders to me.

Welcome me, read my words, trust me, but you do not have to understand me.

My words are my own and those are about me.

A couple of months ago, I received some comments from readers that bothered me some; they affected me, I was a little offended and I responded nicely and appropriately.  These feelings I have come from my insecurities; I want to be honest with myself and those that read my words.  I try not to write uncomfortable words that offend or degrade or abuse others – that is not my purpose.

So after sometime thinking about those comments those words I read, I decided they were opinions and suggestions of others and not really about me.

Those comments, those words – It’s all about you – not me.

My words are my own and those are about me.

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February 1971 – Ain’t No Sunshine by Bill Withers

February 1971 – a song popular in this month – Ain’t No Sunshine by Bill Withers

This was Withers’ first hit. After spending nine years in the US Navy, he had a job at a factory making parts for airplanes when he was introduced to Booker T. Jones from Booker T. & the MG’s.

Interesting facts about Ain’t No Sunshine & Bill Withers –

“Ain’t No Sunshine” peaked at #3 in the US and won a Grammy award for Best Rhythm and Blues Song (1972).

On its first release, this song did not chart in the UK, but Michael Jackson’s cover hit #8 there in 1972. Withers original version eventually made its first entry into the UK singles chart in May 2009 after being performed on Britain’s Got Talent by contestant Shaun Smith.

This was used in the movies Girls Town (1996), Notting Hill (1999), Old School (2003) and Munich (2005). TV shows to use the song include Monk (2005), CSI: NY (2009) and Scandal (2013).

Withers was born on the Fourth of July, 1938. He was the youngest of six children.

In 2015, he was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, with Stevie Wonder giving the induction speech.

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A Twin and A Look-Alike has an article ‘Does Everyone Have a Look-Alike?’ that starts with the following –

We’ve all done a double take when mistaking a random person on the street for someone we know or know of, like the celebrity look-alikes Will Ferrell and Chad Smith – the actor and the Red Hot Chili Peppers drummer, respectively.  But does everyone have a doppelganger?  There’s a fairly decent chance of it, actually, thanks to the limited number of genes that influence facial features.

I have a twin in the world and I have a look-alike in the world.  My twin does not look like me and my look-alike is not my twin.  You see, I am a twin – I have a twin sister and we are fraternal twins and we look nothing alike.  I guess if you looked hard enough there may be some resemblances in our facial features, but her being female and me being male – there are more differences than similarities.

My look-alike, I guess looks very similar to me – I have never seen him, but my mom has.  At a time when I lived in Dallas, many years ago my mom worked at a bank in the small city I grew up in.  She told me a story about one day that she was working and she saw me.  She approached me and asked what I was doing in town and why I did not let her know.  Well, it wasn’t me, but my look-alike fooled my own mom!

Several years ago at a gym I am a member of, in the afternoons upon working out there – I would see my brother.  Well, it was not brother, it was his look-alike.  I am sure I made this guy uncomfortable by staring at him because he looked so much like my brother – it was amazing!

So if there is limited number of genes that influence facial features, and 7.4 billon people in the world, could we have more than one look-alike? indicates ‘There Are 7 People In The World Who Look Exactly Like You‘. has this definition –

In fiction and folklore, a doppelgänger or doppelga(e)nger (/ˈdɒpᵊlˌɡɛŋə/ or /-ˌɡæŋə/; German: [ˈdɔpəlˌɡɛŋɐ] ( listen), literally “double-goer”) is a look-alike or double of a living person, sometimes portrayed as a paranormal phenomenon, and in some traditions as a harbinger of bad luck. In other traditions and stories, they recognize your ‘double-goer’ as an evil twin.

The word doppelgänger is often used in a more general sense to describe any person who physically or behaviorally resembles another person.

Search the interest and you will find interesting stories of people who have met their doppelganger.  I have not yet, but I think it would be fascinating to do so.  My mother has seen my look-alike and I have seen my brother’s look-alike; my look-alike is not my twin, but I do have a twin that does not look like me.

What about you, do you want to meet your doppelganger?

Happenings on the Homefront

Well the home is on the market for about a week now – what has occurred in this past week?

Within less than 24 hours on the market, we had our first showing.


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Good News!  Less than 24 hours of the first showing, the same realtor showed the house for a second time to the same clients.  Very Good News!  Ultimately no offer from those potential buyers.  Not So Good News!

4 days later scheduled is another showing.  Good News!  15 minutes before the scheduled showing, call is received; the showing is cancelled.  Bad News!

A week later and the home is on the market and ready to be sold.  This past week, mother nature decided to provide us with more than 5 inches of rain.  Yes, the week was very soggy.  Did this keep potential buyers from coming to view our home?  I am not sure if this had any affect, but because of the lighting storm a couple of nights ago, we are frantically calling people out to fix a non-working automatic garage door opener, internet-phone-TV issues and the home intercom system that is now not working at all.  Not a good time for issues like these.  But, mother nature is bringing sunshine in the next couple of days; that’s good news!

Image2Our realtor will be having an open house of our home this coming Sunday.  Let us hope the new owners walk in the door that day.

As some of you may know, selling a home and having it listed on the market can at times be hectic.  Gary and I always want our home to show perfectly and immaculately.  We are neat in our living and our home is always clean and tidy.  Especially now that the home is ready to sell and we never know when that next call will come in for the next showing.  Everything must be kept clean at all times.  Before we have a showing, we have a checklist that we complete so the home will be staged for viewing.  This ‘staging’ includes removing things such as the dog’s water bowls, unplugging cell phone cords, wiping down counter tops, ensuring the yard, garden and pool are clean and inviting.  We also turn on all inside lights and ceiling fans.

As we wait for the next owner to walk into the front door, we are researching and deciding our future.


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You remember we have ‘Plan A’ and ‘Plan B’, which will we choose?  Not 100% decided just yet, but we are getting closer to making a decision.  When I know that decision, I will let you know.

In the meantime, we continue with staying busy researching the future possibilities and patiently waiting for the next owners to come view the home.


Opening and Closing the Garage Door

Yesterday I had to open and close the garage door manually.  Now for some people, this may seem insignificant or unimportant.  But I have to physically open and close and yes lock the garage door manually.  OMG, the automatic garage door is not working – what am I going to do?

I realized yesterday I have become accustomed to opening and closing my garage door automatically, and not putting any effort into doing this.  Until now; since it is no longer working.


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Let’s go back to yesterday!  Texas is receiving quite a bit of rain this week and it is Tuesday overnight and storms make their way through the Dallas area.  The thunder and lighting and heavy rain wake me about 3:00 AM.  I get out of bed and sit in the recliner for a while before I officially rise for the day.  Umm, the coffee did not start, did I forget to set it the night before?  No, but the clock on the coffee maker is off, but we have electricity because the digital clock on the oven is on.  Okay, the GFI is tripped, strange that has never occurred before.  Coffee is started, the start of the day is good – or so I thought.


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My routine is I drink coffee, exercise and meditate.  Not this morning; Gary and I have plans today and I have much to do this morning before we leave.  Upon finishing my coffee, I wake ‘Roxy’ (our Rat Terrier) to take her outside for her morning ‘business’.  I usually grab the pole and net and remove any leaves that may be in the pool while she is busy with her duties.  It is early morning, I need to turn on the pool light, the light does not come on.  Okay, what is going on?


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Back in the house and soon I find out, no TV, no internet and no home phone and several breakers and GFIs have tripped.  What is going on?

I try to reboot the modem to no success.  Then my wireless mouse and keyboard stop working and then I am in the kitchen and Gary comes in and turns the light on and one of them burns out.  I respond “This is going to be a bad day!”


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We need to leave for a busy day of activities and guess what; the garage door will not open.  The automatic garage door is not working, what is going on?

I unhook it and manually open and close, then lock and we leave.  Upon arriving back home later in the day, I walk through the front door and to the garage to manually unlock and open the garage door.  I then drive the truck into the garage and manually shut the garage door and lock it.

What a pain to have to manually open and close the garage door!

Oh but wait, I remember, there are people in South Texas with homes flooded, who would appreciate opening their garage doors manually.


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And there are people in other countries of the world who have lost everything due to earthquakes who would appreciate having a garage.


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It was not a bad day after all.