It’s about you – not me

My words are my own and those are about me.

When I started my blog, my intention was to write about me and my life.  I have done so with honesty, at times reaching deeply inside to relive and remember emotions of long ago.

My honesty is from my heart and my soul and it is the truth as I see it.  I can be blunt, I can be direct, I can be resonating and I can be lighthearted.

I am a human with many different fluid aspects, that have changed over time and I have evolved over time and continue to do so.

My words are my own and those are about me.

These words in my posts are short images of events and experiences and thinking that take place in the past and in the present.

To read and to understand can be difficult at times.

To read and to formulate a thought is achieving a purpose on my part.

My words are my own and those are about me.

I write words with never intent to offend.

I write posts with never intent to upset.

Follow the whole me and not part of me; for one post does not describe me.

Follow the whole me and not reject what I have to say: for I have reasons, I have motives.

My words are my own and those are about me.

Your thoughts, your comments are important to me.

Your energy, your friendship brings wonders to me.

Welcome me, read my words, trust me, but you do not have to understand me.

My words are my own and those are about me.

A couple of months ago, I received some comments from readers that bothered me some; they affected me, I was a little offended and I responded nicely and appropriately.  These feelings I have come from my insecurities; I want to be honest with myself and those that read my words.  I try not to write uncomfortable words that offend or degrade or abuse others – that is not my purpose.

So after sometime thinking about those comments those words I read, I decided they were opinions and suggestions of others and not really about me.

Those comments, those words – It’s all about you – not me.

My words are my own and those are about me.

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57 thoughts on “It’s about you – not me

  1. Terry I am really sad that you had comments that were bothersome and offended you. This is YOUR space and I, for one and so priviliged to be able to share your words. Note – YOUR words. And thoughts – YOUR thoughts. And feelings – YOUR feelings. Keep doing what you do – it is a delight 🙂

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    • Thanks Osyth, I truly appreciate you and your friendship. I was so bothered by these comments that came within the same week, I was upset because I knew they were based on these individuals reading only on of my posts. I got over it, and that is where this post came from. Glad to see you again, I missed you! Happy Day Friend! 🙂

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  2. I am reading more and more of people writing comments that are unkind. I don’t understand that unproductive, mean behavior. It IS about them. We, who have the pleasure of following you get to experience your words and what you share with us about your thoughts, experiences, life in a friendly, and interesting way. I’m sorry you had to experience that. I always look forward to reading your writing. I’m glad we are connected. Alexis

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  3. Blogging is not a conversation or debate. If people like what you say, they should enjoy but if not then don’t start a tirade, just close the tab and shrug. I hope you don’t edit your honesty from your blog, don’t water yourself down. I like you full strength and on the unlikely event of me disagreeing I don’t expect you to be anyone but yourself. Let it be Paul McCartney said.

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    • Thank you David for your support and understanding. I will be all of me as I continue to write. And I agree, it I read a post from another blog I do not necessary agree with, I will move on. I respect everyone’s writings and blogs, and would expect that in return. Have a great Monday! 🙂

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    • Well said Eric! It is a little difficult for me because I take the comments to heart and feel like I need to defend myself. I am still learning! I appreciate your comment and hope your day is going well! 🙂

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  4. “Follow the whole me and not part of me; for one post does not describe me.”
    OMG. Terry! That quote says it all. I’m stealing your words. (Is it stealing if I tell you I’m stealing?). And I honestly cannot understand anyone who would make comments to upset you! Great post!

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    • Catherine, you are welcome to steal those words and use them.. A follower had read one post and made comments that upset me – and that is where that quote came from. As always, I appreciate you and your comments. Good day to you my dear! 🙂

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  5. I think blogs are great and interesting because of their unique content! I honestly don’t see how anything you write could be offensive! It is your life, your world and your blog. We learn from others and take things that we want! Please keep being genuine and unique! I lived for years unable to be “me” so this is so important to me and close to my heart! xxx

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  6. I have grown to love the “whole you” and each individual “part” too! Be YOU – you are a BEYOUTIFUL person. I, too, can be so easily affected by other people’s opinions, but am trying the older I get to not let that affect me either. As you say – those words are about them – not you! I will remember that. Thank you for that!

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    • Thank you Jodi, I appreciate your kind words and I know they come from your heart. With my writing and this blog, I am learning to let go of things and this includes letting go of the opinions of others. Thanks for being a dear friend! By the way, the red boat sits in one of my bedrooms displayed for anyone that comes to view our own for future ownership. I really love the watercolor! 🙂

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  7. Oh Terry, it saddens me that you went through this. It is not fair. Comments made are of the opinion of the other, and about them, not you. It is possibly easier said than done, but try not let the opinions of others affect you. You do not have a mean bone in your body and have a heart of gold.
    I look forward to my daily fix of ‘Terry’, so keep on doing what you are doing, you are a star. x

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  8. How sad Terry….I am sorry….I like to think that the people on WordPress are here to be kind and caring toward each other…. the old saying, If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say it all, was pounded in my head…..I am sorry that whomever made those statements to you caused you to dwell on them….sweetheart, brush that BS off your shoulders and understand that, that’s there opinion and nothing more, don’t give it a second thought….your a wonderful man and respect should be given to each other no matter….that’s what this site is about, a format to let us state the truth to each other, to be accepted for who we are no matter who we are…..okay I am starting to rant…LOL your wonderful and I enjoy reading what you have to say about yourself!!!! Don’t stop!!! kat

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  9. This was a perfect response. You handled this so well. I don’t think this part of blogging is easy for anyone. You even shared your honesty in this experience. Your blog is full of your growth as a human being. The rest of your followers have them outnumbered anyway! Everything you felt about it was because you are human and you were honest enough to admit it. Beautifully handled and written!

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  10. I am sure you already know this Terry but you sound like an amazing chap and have coped well with all that life has sent your way. You have opened up and shared your trials and tribulations and received worthless comments from haters responding to your words. You MUST simply ignore and block them. I know it is easier said than done old chap but honestly, these people are the lowest of the low. I firmly believe unless you have something good or constructive to say, don’t say anything at all.
    I don’t like to swear but F*%k them with a big stick is what I say to people who are not smart enough to appreciate your words.
    And if that doesn’t work, send them my way and I will fire a few home truths into them….. 😉
    Bell well buddy.

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  11. This is upsetting. You are SUCH a nice guy and always so positive, it is bothersome to hear people are being rude to you. It’s absolutely unnecessary. This is your place with your friends and you shouldn’t be harassed here. If someone doesn’t like it, they should move along. Keep on bringing us your positive spirit!

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  12. Some people will always be ignorant and you have never written anything that has offended me. I once just deleted a comment that was not pleasant but it disturbed me for a while. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all, my Nana always said. 🙂

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  13. Dear Terry , you’ve handled it so well 🙂
    And I make mine all the words above as they were so well put by all your dear friends (and as I’m so late here , as usual 😉 )
    Keep being yourself , we appreciate your honesty
    Turtle Hugs ❤

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