Can’t keep me from you my friends

Two days ago it was Tuesday and my post ‘The Next Surgery‘ was published.  You remember that post, many of you, so many of you left comments.  And then yesterday on my post ‘I know this time! (Reader Discretion Advised)’, once again so many comments from you my friends.

Your comments are always kind, considerate, supporting and thoughtful.  I am very fortunate to have so many wonderful friends like you.  Your words of encouragement keep me positive and strong.  Your prayers, your thoughts and your hugs are all received and my heart is touched.  I never imagined that I would have many wonderful friends that are here for me during my times of struggle.

How can I thank you?

Two days ago it was Tuesday, I had a post all ready for today; already written and already planned.  All your comments touched me.  So I wrote another post, this one for today because of you and your comments.

How can I thank you?

Words are not enough, but that is all I have – Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

I was looking for a video that would convey my feelings about you; a video or a song that would be prefect in reflecting my feelings for you.  There are so many videos out there and I accidently came across this one.

I liked it and it brought a smile to my face.  I hope you have a smile after watching it!

I know this time! (Reader Discretion Advised)

Look at this picture –


This picture was taken after my last surgery back in February upon returning to my room from recovery.  I look happy even though I have a huge catheter inserted into my bladder via my male part!  Little did I know, two days later the catheter would be removed by Dr. F. without compassion and with such power and force that I thought I had died.  Yes, this is what I get to look forward to again.

Today is surgery day and when this post is published via a schedule I will be in surgery.  If all goes as it did with my past surgery, it should take a couple of hours and after a brief stay in the hospital for several more hours, I should be able to go home sometime this afternoon.  I will then enjoy having a catheter for a couple of days at which time I know what to expect – I know this time.

I know this time what to expect regarding the surgery.

I know this time what to expect after surgery and during my recovery at home.

I know this time what to expect when Dr. F. will pull the catheter out.

I know this time what to expect the following few days after the catheter is extracted.

It does not make it any easier this time even though I know this time what to expect.  I do not look forward to the pain and discomfort that I will experience.  I know, I know; I am not the only one to endure this and yes there are many people going through much worse than me.  Can I be honest?  What man enjoys having large medical instruments shoved in his penis?  I mean really, I do not look forward to it.  Okay, sorry for being so personal, but it is the truth.

Now, I know in about a week, the pain will be much less and the body will be getting back to some normalcy.  I am unsure what that normalcy will be; because with the past surgery, my normalcy changed and will most likely change again after this surgery.

But wait, I forgot, there is the stent and the eventual removal of it.  How do they possibly remove the stent without surgery?  Oh I know, I already researched it, you got it!

Another medical instrument shoved in the penis!

I know this time!

Sneak Peek

In my post ‘Inspection, Procedure & Follow-up‘, I wrote the following –

As soon as Gary and I complete our travel itinerary, I will share it with you.  We initially thought the home would sell faster and we would be on the road in June or July.  Now that it will be August, some adjustments will need to be made.   Once these adjustments are made, I will share to you our exciting travel itinerary.

In today’s post, I write the following –

Gary and I continue to plan our future adventure.  I wanted to give you a sneak peek into our future travels.  We are planning travels starting on or around August 2th, which is the date of the closing for the home.  Image 1Our planning involves traveling a portion of the United States and then making our way back to West Texas for Thanksgiving in which we will spend with my family.  Our plan then will be to travel back to Dallas, Texas for my urology checkup and then proceed from there as long as my checkup is good.

From Dallas, Texas we will then take a month and make our way to Crestview, Florida at which time we will spend Christmas with Gary’s family.  After Christmas we will then will make our way to South Florida where we will spend the rest of the winter months.

After winter we then plan to travel another portion of the United States and hopefully by the end of next year have traveled in all 48 continental United States.  Yes, our further out future plans could change due to many unforeseen variables.  Do not forget, I still must have a cystoscopy performed every 3 months for the next several years due to my recent cancer.  At this time, we have not decided how this will be handled once we are on the road again.  This is an important consideration to keep in mind when we make our schedule for traveling.

Okay, so I have yet to let you know where we are going in the other months of this year – more to come on that in a couple of weeks.  We continue to plan and schedule and rework our route.  Once we have a definitive plan – I will let you know.


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Also in the next couple of weeks we will plan to take procession of our RV we will call home for most likely the next year and onward.  In the next several weeks, we hope to make a couple of test trips nearby to learn to tow the trailer.  We plan to stay a couple of nights and learn the basics of living in an RV.

Should be fun!

July 1971 – You’ve Got a Friend by James Taylor

July 1971 – a song popular in this month – You’ve Got a Friend by James Taylor

Written and recorded by Carole King in 1971, this song became the biggest, and most well-known hit for then 23-year-old James Taylor, and his only #1 in America. It was the first single off of his third album.

Interesting facts about You’ve Got a Friend & James Taylor

According to Taylor, Carole King told him that this song was a response to his 1970 hit “Fire and Rain,” where Taylor sings, “I’ve seen lonely times when I could not find a friend.” King’s musical response: “you’ve got a friend right here.”

Taylor’s version of this song won the 1971 Grammy Award for Best Male Pop Vocal Performance. The song also won for Song of the Year, an award that goes to it’s writer, Carole King.

James Vernon Taylor was born in Boston, Massachusetts. His family moved to Chappel Hill, North Carolina in 1951. James’ older brother, Alex Taylor has a son named James Richmond Taylor. Alex sadly lost his life on March 12, 1993, James’ 45th birthday.

Garth Brooks is a big fan, and named his first child Taylor in honor of James.

Taylor has done very well with cover songs, recording popular versions of Carole King’s “You’ve Got a Friend,” Marvin Gaye’s “How Sweet It Is To Be Loved By You,” Jimmy Jones’ “Handy Man,” The Drifters “Up On The Roof” and Buddy Holly’s “Everyday.”

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Spatula Man

My category ‘Pictures & Stories’ are posts with me writing a fictional, creative short story about a picture.

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Spatula Man –

The man, the spatula; what was being hidden from the world?

It was another ordinary football game, just another event, all were there ready for the eats.  They were waiting for him to finish the burgers and hotdogs as the big game was taking place.  It is the third quarter and 3rd down and 12.  What was the next play going to be?  A pass seemed to be the obvious choice, but could it be a different play instead?

But wait the burgers and hotdogs; when was spatula man going to be finish?  As the crowd grew louder in anticipation of the play so did the hungry people surrounding spatula man.  The play begins and spatula man turns around raises his metal spatula and motions to the crowd, what comes next will go down in the history books.

The play turns into a run, and the quarterback runs 60 yards for the touchdown and the team explodes with cheers as the crowd noise is overwhelming the stadium.  But what about spatula man, what happen, what would become of him?

That day in history as spatula man turned and motioned to the crowd, the picture was taken and his life changed forever.  He became known as the greatest living hunk of all time and starred in countless movies and won countless awards and retired in his later years living in an RV and traveling and exploring.

The man, the spatula: what was being hidden from the world?

# 34, my ‘kid’!

In my post ‘will I cry or will I smile?‘, I wrote the following –

I do not really like Father’s Day!

Why, you ask?  Not because I dislike my father, no – it is because I dislike me as a father.

In today’s post, I write the following –

Guess who turns 34 today?  No not me, I wish!

Today is my son #1’s birthday.  Image1He turns 34 years old today!

Wow, seems like yesterday I was changing his diapers and burping him.  I have images in my mind of him dressed in cute outfits such as a little baseball one piece with the matching baseball cap.  I remember him sleeping on my chest the nights he had colic.  I remember feeding him, bathing him, taking him on vacations, spending time with him and helping him with his homework.

Those days are gone and a memory now.  Today he is doing those things because he has ‘kids’ of his own.  I call my sons, ‘kids’ – they will always be my ‘kids’, my sons.  But being in his mid-30s, I guess he is no longer a ‘kid’, but a man.  Yes, he is a man, but he is still my ‘kid’, my son.

So, today is my son’s birthday, and he is now 34.  Amazing!  Where did the time go?

For those of you have followed me for quite a while, you know I have struggled internally about my role as a father and as a dad.

After writing numerous posts last year about my role as a dad, my relationship with my sons and the feelings of disappointment in myself as a dad; I decided it was time to move on.  I decided it was time to move from thoughts and feelings that weigh me down and prevent me from going forward.  The past is the past and are embedded in memories.  I am unable to change those memories, but I can create new ones.

Image2So as I celebrate my son’s 34th birthday, I will also celebrate me moving on from the less than perfect father and the less than perfect dad.

Today is my son #1’s birthday.  He turns 34 years old today!  Yes, he is a man, but he is still my ‘kid’, my son.

Happy Birthday Son #1!

Happy # 34, my ‘kid’!


The Voice (not the TV show)

I wrote in my post ‘Mindfulness Meditation‘, the following –

At times my mind is chaotic with thoughts swirling and never ending.  My mind can feel like ‘white noise (Static)’.  Do you remember old TV sets, with a station with no programming, the visual static and noise it made, at times my mind feels similar to this.

I wrote in my post ‘What is meditation teaching me?‘, the following –

Meditation has joined with me and helps me, though a slow process for me, it is improving me.  Meditation is taking me to a quieter mind and bringing me back to be in the moment, at this time at this place; a better place.  Meditation is teaching me, though a slow process for me, to have additional patience, improved concentration and to have calmness during times of interruptions.

In today’s post, I write the following –

During one morning’s meditation, I recorded my mind!  You ask how can you record your mind?  Not easy, I would not try this at home – very dangerous!

Listen as I proceed and take you through a short period of meditation –

Dumbbells Boogie

Hello everyone, this post is a Video Log post related to Boogie Blogging.

What is Boogie Blogging – dancing, moving to music, making a fool of myself, creating laugher within you.

I like to dance and I like to move; movement is good for all of us.  Why not have fun while we are moving?

It you like the music with my videos, you are welcome to get up and move or dance with me!

Let loose, let’s have fun, let’s do some Boogie Blogging.


Boogie Blogging with dumbbells –

in a pickle

Google ‘in a pickle’ and one of the results is –

People also ask

What does the idiom in a pickle mean?

If you are in a pickle, you are in a difficult position, or have a problem to which no easy answer can be found. The word ‘pickle’ comes from the Dutch word ‘pekel’, meaning ‘something piquant’, and originally referred to a spiced, salted vinegar that was used as a preservative.

I heard I am ‘in a pickle’.

In my post ‘Inspection, Procedure & Follow-up‘, I wrote the following –

I had another appointment with my urologist this past Wednesday.

Dr. F. viewed the results of the IVP procedure and it was determined there is no blockage in my ureter from my right kidney.  There will be no stent inserted into my ureter prior to my next surgery.  Dr. F. indicated the cancer and scar tissue are very close to the ureter opening.  Upon my next surgery Dr. F. will insert a temporary stent in my ureter, then remove the cancer and scar tissue, then remove the stent.

In today’s post, I write the following –

That last appointment with Dr. F., I was sitting in a patient room alone.  Gary usually comes with me on my visits, but this particular day, he was taking care of business related to selling the home.  I sat there alone in the room and I could hear voices outside the door.  Across the room I was in, is a small enclave that has desks and computers.  I could hear Dr. F’s. voice and I heard the words “Terry is in a pickle.”

Umm, what does he mean by that?  I found out later that he had been viewing the CD of my IVP test.  I think ‘in a pickle’ is referring to the flow of my urine looking good from my right kidney to my bladder.  But, the cancer and scar tissue are very near my ureter opening.  This is the reason for the temporary stent.

My bladder continues to burn, my urination process is painful and the blood clots are more frequent and getting larger.  My lower right back pain continues with pain and is strong at night.  At this time, it is difficult to sleep in the bed as lying flat increases the pain in my lower back.  Most of the night I am in a recliner and trying to get some reasonable sleep.  Don’t forget, I am usually up every hour to go pee.


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Yesterday I received the date; the date for the next surgery.  My surgery will be June 29th, a week from tomorrow. After speaking with Dr. F. yesterday, most likely the stent that will be inserted first upon surgery will not be removed for at least 2 weeks. Again another biopsy will take place on the new cancer growth to determine if it has grown further into the wall of my bladder.  Remember with my last biopsy, it was determined the cancer had NOT grown into my bladder wall, but HAD grown into the connective layer outside my bladder lining.