Have a Happy Day

I know, I know – I write these words ‘Have a happy day’ or something very similar in many of my comments.  Why?

No particular reason – I just feel writing them often would have you and I thinking more about it.  Yes; It does sound corny sometimes, but I do believe it is important to say and do.  It is difficult for me at times to have a happy day.  I am not always happy; many times I am unhappy.  Why is that?  Why do I struggle to be happy?  Why do I struggle with accepting happiness?

65 thoughts on “Have a Happy Day

  1. Awww – I wish I could hug you right now, Terry!!! You can´t do more than try and to be honest, no one expects you to be happy at this moment in your life – pains are not easy to live with, and although there might be people around who wear a stiff upper-lip and pretend everything is allright, I for one certainly don´t belong to them either 😉 I´m so happy for you that Gary cares so good for you, and don´t think of you as a hindrance! You surely are NOT!! I´m with you with saying “Have a Happy Day” is important. And I always wish you a happy day!!! xxx

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  2. I find I struggle with happiness when I am not in the moment. Trying to find the big picture and what it all means. I find I am happy when I am outside looking at clouds, listening to the waves on the lake or watching a fire burn. I have learned for me contentment with where I am leads to happiness. I hope you find your happy place and are open to what makes you feel contentment and peace inside. 🙂

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  3. Its totally understandable that you feel like that, that you are feeling low as you are dealing with what sounds like significant pain and you can’t ignore that all the time. Its ok to be in a mood and snap and be irritable. If you didn’t then you wouldn’t be human. It great that you have Gary, someone who loves you very much and is supporting you through this difficult time. I know, you probably feel horrible that you can’t help with the packing or snap at Gary, but he is with you because he loves you through the good times and the bad times, he wants to be there for you, you are not a burden and this will only make your love and relationship stronger. Hopefully this low period will pass, but try not to be too hard on yourself. I thought the rain and thunder in the background was very symbolic of the mood of your video. Even despite the low mood, you still retained an element of positivity and I love that you wish everyone a happy day in your comments. Happiness can be infectious, I know a lovely comment from my bloggers cheers me up or watching a funny video or a video of you doing the boogie can take me from being sad or low or unhappy to smiling and laughing and directing my thoughts in a different direction. Perhaps just doing one thing or watching one thing you know will make you smile will elevate your thoughts or mood even if its just for a few mins. Sending you many hugs xx

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    • Thank you for the hugs – they are always welcome here. I certainly have some level of positive to me – I do not let things get me down. Now that does not mean I don’t let the pain put me in a bad mood – because I do – and this is something I need to improve on. I appreciate you and your support – and your comments are always welcomed! Happy weekend my friend! 🙂

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    • Thank you Paula, yes – I never give up. It’s like running that last mile of the marathon, tiredness has set in – but you know you can finish and you keep moving forward! Appreciate you and your comments always. Happy Weekend! 🙂

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  4. Terry, Terry, Terry, I am sure no one expects you to be happy all day, every day. You are going through so much, you have gone through so much, and of course that has to play a huge role on how you are feeling emotionally. I know you are grateful for so much in your life. You being sad or not being happy doesn’t make you a bad person, it doesn’t make you ungrateful, it just makes you human. I don’t know if anyone would be happy 24/7 going through what you have to deal with on a daily basis, the lack of sleep, the pain, the everything. Trust me you are wonderful, and the best !!!(ask Gary, he will agree ) 🙂
    Hope the sun comes out soon, because I know you love the sun. Hugs my friend. x

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  5. I love that you say to have a happy day. It always feels personal and thoughtful. I wish I could have seen more of your video! It kept cutting out (on my end). Anyway I loved hearing the rain, one of my favorite sounds. And I hope you’re having a happy day 🙂

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    • Thank you Sadie, today is better! I want everyone to have a happy day including myself – I think it is important. We all have events in our lives and in our world that cause us to be unhappy, I try to make it a point to be happy, positive thinking does wonders. Happy day to you as well my friend! 🙂

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  6. Your ‘Have a happy day’ valediction always makes me pause for reflection, I ask myself if I have had a happy day and if not, why not and what can I do next day to rectify that. Today I am very happy to report that I have indeed had a very happy day in ways that I can’t detail here, but it has been my mum’s 86th birthday yesterday as well as today being the anniversary of my brother’s death age 22. It is a difficult time for us as a family because we have so many birthdays surrounding it, mine included. But is time as the weather was awful on her birthday and we weren’t able to take her out for lunch (she has restricted mobility), the sun came out today and she was anle to have her day out. Although she ached all over from inaccustomed activity and her difficulties getting in and out of the car, she told me she had loved every minute of it. And for that, I am extremely happy. Thank you. 😊

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    • You brought a smile to my face, I am happy your mom loved every minute of ‘her’ day today! And that makes you happy also. When I feel my pains, I remind myself of my grandmother who experienced much pain late in life, but she never complained and she was always happy. I strive to be like her. I strive to be happy and wish that upon everyone else. Thanks for your comment, I truly appreciate your words. 🙂

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  7. Hi Terry, I love your video updates because, as in everything you write and say, they are honest and what you say comes from your kind and generous heart. Sending you loads of hugs and thank you for wishing me and everyone else a happy day, even during your sad ones. We are all with you xxx

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    • Thank you very much Roberta, you and others here bring me happiness because of your support. I am fortunate to have met many here on WP, and I know it was for a very good reason. And – have a happy day my friend! 🙂

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  8. In today’s troubled world, we all hope to have a pleasant, happy day. It seems the more we improve – the more we take steps to go backwards! But if we have a bad day, we hope and try to improve tomorrow!

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  9. You are a deeply sensitive man, that is so clear. And you are in pain and you have the uncertainty and frankly scary thought of major surgery coming up AS WELL AS packing your home to set out on an adventure that was planned and has now been ruptured by the not good news about your Cancer. So it is hardly surprising that you are on an emotional roller-coaster and stuck in the low loop not the high one. YOu are very loved by your wonderful husband, by Miss Roxy and as it turns out by many many others. Be what you feel. Find the value in the way things are and please please please don’t beat yourself up (that’s my job – stop stealing it 😉 )

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    • LOL, you always make me laugh! How do you do that? I am certainly stuck in the low loop of that roller coaster – and I have been for awhile, just ask Gary! I am tried, and that brings weakness – but I keep moving forward and do my best. Thanks Osyth, I can always count on you to bring a smile to my face. Happy Weekend to you my friend! 🙂

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  10. I think you have happiness in your heart. I can see it in your face and hear it in your words. Who wouldn’t be feeling blue when in pain, facing a surgery, and a move? Your life and pain is just overshadowing everything else right now, much like the Mother Earth does in the winter. Thanks for your video. Blessings to you! -Jennie-

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  11. Oh Terry, all of this is so understandable! Physical pain is very wearing on your emotions. My husband, who is not facing what you are, is struggling today with the fact that he knows he has to go through another surgery in a few weeks. You have so much on your plate. My heart goes out to you!

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    • I am glad you understand, although I wish pain upon nobody! I hope your husband is okay and it is not too serious. Please know that I am thinking about him and you and hope all will be better very soon.

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      • No, fortunately it is not too serious. After his next surgery, this will be three surgeries for him in a year and a half. This next surgery is to fix complications from his surgery last year. He really hasn’t felt well since that first surgery. He has been dealing with pain and just not feeling well. We are hoping after the next surgery he can enjoy life again more fully. I know how wearing it can be under okay circumstances. You my friend have a tall order to face. And I will be so glad to see you through it to the other side. We need you pain free and feeling strong. You have many adventures ahead to share with us. 🙂 In the meantime, whatever you are feeling is so understandable!

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          • I will! Unfortunately he had such a horrible experience during and after his first surgery that I couldn’t get him to go be seen. Too much pain finally changed his mind. So we are hopeful after this next surgery he will feel much better. And the same for you Terry!

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  12. Oh Sweet Terry… So wish I could give you a big tight bear hug right now. And when we were done and you were laughing because I squeezed the stuffing out of you, I would then give Gary a big tight hug and a kiss and thank him for being patient with you and for loving you and for sharing you with us. It’s a tough time you are going through right now. Be easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself. And even when you are mean and cranky, let Gary know how much you love him. I hope he saw this video. How could he not love you. You are honest and you are trying. What more could anyone want. We can’t be happy all the time. Just cherish those fleeting moments you are and know there will be more. Love you Terry. Take care!

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    • Thanks Jodi, you are very kind and sweet – such lovely words you have for me. Gary is amazing to put up with me – trust me, no one else would! I know one day we will get those hugs in person. Thanks for being you – you are one special lady! 🙂

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  13. Whoa, Terry, you are way too hard on yourself! Who wouldn’t be feeling anxious, trepidatious and just plain unhappy at times? Gary has loved you for many years and will continue to do so – he is your husband. Sickness and health? It is good to be optimistic about the future but just let Gary take the lead in the rest of the move because you have cancer and are in pain. Relax, if you can, listen to music, fantasize about your new move. Hugs K x

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  14. It happens with all of us, Terry. We suffer, we get angry 😦 But I liked to way you are coping up with the problems and are trying to be in a good mood. Things will become happier definitely…sending you love and hugs. ❤

    The sound of the rain and thunderstorm in your video just made me happy (perhaps you know I LOVE rain) Thank you loads for that… 🙂

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  15. Terry….sitting here shedding tears for you…I can only imagine how difficult life is for you right now…its okay to be unhappy an sad at time, however I do feel that your positive attitude is so healthy….but it really is okay to feel sadness…you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t, in my opinion I feel its healthy to your well being to let out the sadness….share it with us, let us carry it for you….your a good person and Gary is lucky to have you in his life as I feel that you are just as lucky to have him……I love the rain serenading us all through your heartfelt post, I would of stepped back and let the rain wash away all the sorrow….I also believe that rain is very therapeutic in many ways and one of them is standing in it and letting it cleanse your inner soul….the thunder was just a bonus!!! sorry I have been absent on here…however I am getting a lot of family time in and enjoying the nice cool air….as I will be heading back to land of sun really soon….take care my friend…sending a virtual snug hug, and lots of healing light……kat

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    • Oh kat, you are one of those special blogger friends that always bring sunshine to my day. I am fortunate to know you and appreciate you very much. You know I believe everything happens for a reason. This blog, you and others, it is all here in my life today for a reason, support for what is next – this I believe. And I have such great support from friends like you! Have fun and enjoy the family, never be sorry for spending time with them! Thanks dear for the snug hug and healing light – I feel them right now! 🙂

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