In my post ‘Stars of Life‘, I wrote the following –

Interesting, many stars in the sky; we wish upon them, we watch them and dream – we dream about stars – the stars in the sky.

But stars are not just in the sky.

I have stars in my life – not just the ones in the skies – no, I have other stars in my life.

In my life, the stars are my mom & my spouse.  You know how important my mom is to me; I have written many posts about her.  My spouse, Gary is important also and I have written posts about him.

In today’s post, I write the following –


Gary and I were married December of last year by a judge in a courtroom of a county government office.  No witness except the judge, no guests, no cake and a just a couple of pictures.  During our ceremony, our vows that were exchanged to one another were similar to the traditional Roman Catholic vows –

I, Gary, take you, Terry, to be my husband,

I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.

I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.

Terry, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

These words I was taking very seriously, while Gary on the other hand was giggling!  Really Gary, you are giggling during the vows?

Okay, so this star in my life, unknown to him that day we were married, is now a caregiver.  I might add he is an excellent caregiver.

Those vows spoken “I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.”

The bad times are here, the sickness is here, and those words spoken back in December, between the giggles, they were taken very seriously.

My caregiver is strong, smart, detailed and always ahead of the game.  He keeps me motivated and keeps me taking my medications when I should be taking them.  He prepares my meals, he cleans the 5th wheel, he takes me to my appointments, he makes sure I stay on track.

What more could I ask for?  Nothing, this star of mine, my caregiver, is everything to me.

My husband by law, my partner for life, my star, my caregiver – I respond with the following –

I know I am a horrible patient and I complain and lose my temper and throw tantrums.  I am often grumpy and want to be left alone to soak in my uncertainties.

But remember, I took those vows also –

I will love you all the days of my life.

I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, sickness and in health.

I am thankful for you my caregiver; I am grateful for you Gary.


67 thoughts on “Caregiver

  1. Tears trickle down my face …. true love, real love knows know obstacles and yours is a beautiful sparkling tribute to the love of your life from the love of his. I smile. I feel warmth wrapping my heart. I am moved. And all shall be well for you both. ❤️

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  2. This is beautiful Terry. I believe people come into our lives for a reason, and who better than the two of you in each other’s life, you compliment each other. I am so pleased that you do have Gary in your life. What you guys have, is the real deal. 🙂 Happy thoughts and thinking of you always. Have a lovely day 🙂

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  3. Beautiful and such a privilege to witness ☺️ I know you are going to wish me a happy day, for which I thank you, but as our day is now drawing to a close I wanted to tell you I had a lovely, if exhausting! day with my two youngest grandchildren – age 3 and 19months. It was a surprise visit, we were given 2 hours notice to clean up, childproof the house and organise food! It was like having a whirlwind go through our home, they are so busy all the time. It was only their second visit this year and so all the more precious. It was great fun and my grand-daughter told me when she was leaving that she had a happy time at my house and she loved seeing me. My toddler grandson blew me kisses as they left. Lovely post, Terry, thank you for sharing. 😊

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  4. Spoken with so much love….that’s true love….that’s what its all about…and I know that if the tables were turned…your would be a sparkling star as he is….that’s what we do for our spouses…and remember theres a couple reasons for the giggling…first he may have been just so damn smitten that he was getting to marry the man of his dreams he couldn’t contain the love and it seeped out in giggles….(personal I like this one) and giggles are a sing of nerves in situations…..I love true love stories…, that’s what its all about….love, love , love…..xxkat

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  5. And I am grateful to you both for taking your vows so seriously… something I fear is taken too lightly these days. You and Gary are blessed with a marriage made in heaven. You are soul mates and truly belong together… and it just doesn’t get any better than that. Xoxo

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