Only the Lonely

There are 2 songs with the title ‘Only the Lonely’; by Roy Orbison and The Motels, and I do like both songs.

This post is about me wanting to be alone and away from others.  I have always considered myself a loner who prefers the silent life without noise, without light, without people.  Many times, in my life I have wanted to escape to a deserted island away from everyone.  Though I am a little spoiled, I would need my daily creature comforts on my deserted island.  Food and water that is plentiful and easy to find; no fishing or hunting for me – there would be a kitchen on my deserted island where I could prepare my meals.  Okay, back to only the lonely.

I know there are many people who find comfort in being alone; does this make us strange or out of touch?  I don’t think so, for me being along brings comfort and reflection.

During the days after my chemotherapy treatment when I was at my extreme tired states, I would find comfort and reflection being along in the bedroom with the doors close.  My behind closed doors at times was up to 12 hours during which I would sleep some but much of the time I would lay there in the bed and reflect.

My times alone bring me back to me.  I at times become away from the center of me when around others and my mind with all its defects and short comings take over.  I need time by myself to reflect and remember the many things I learned many years ago that brought a once unhappy suicidal person to a person that can be filled with life and happiness.

I need my time alone and I know the deserted island scenario will never come to pass and honestly in my heart and mind, I do need some people around some of the time.  It may be the living as a hermit might be a little extreme for me, but it does have its attraction.

So, these 2 songs I like by Roy Orbison and The Motels, maybe they were written for different reasons then the reasons I have for being alone.  But there appears to be sometime we all need at different times in our lives and that is alone time.  For some, more than others.  And during that alone time, it may be the lyrics from these 2 songs ring true now and again –

From ‘Only the Lonely’ by Roy Orbison –

There goes my baby

There goes my heart

They’re gone forever

So far apart

But only the lonely

Know why

I cry

Only the lonely

From ‘Only the Lonely’ by The Motels –

Only the lonely only the lonely can play

It’s like I told you only the lonely can play

Only the lonely

Only the lonely can play

I conclude with an excerpt from article ‘Enjoy Your Alone Time: Be Happy Without Seeking Validation’ –

I have found that the more time I spend alone, the more comfortable I become in my own skin because I can truly get to know myself. This provides me with more patience to accept myself as I am, wherever I am in my journey, on a daily basis.

52 thoughts on “Only the Lonely

  1. How are you my friend?
    I definitely can relate to your feelings. I must say I am very comfortable with my own company. I enjoy being alone, and this may sound awful, but often I look forward to my hubby being away, just so I can get my alone time. Sometimes, I even enjoy total silence and won’t even turn the radio on.
    That ‘island’ sounds like a plan…I would need my home comforts though 🙂
    Have a wonderful day. 🙂

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  2. I love being alone, and now that my boys have flown the nest, I have alone time, which I have to say I love, however I do admit, the more you do it, the more you want, I’m not a hermit, because of my work, but there is nothing strange in wanting to be alone, it’s great to get to grips with things and as you say, get to know yourself really well, but don’t do it to hide and block things out, you are a lovely person I think to be around and contribute so much to many lives, so keep sharing your lovely self, you have people that love and care for you, take care

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  3. I’m a dichotomy according to my husband. Although I put on a very sociable front I am actually basically a hermit. This is not to say that I dont need people but I am very comfortable on my own. However, loneliness is the flip side of alone for me and that is the thing that I have to watch for because loneliness if it begins to take over actually makes me sad rather than comfortable. So its a balance. I know you get that and I actually think it is one of the things that connects us. Take good care of you. That is important to me.

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  4. LOL an Island oasis is not that far fetched Terry-on my oceanfront property when everyone leaves for school and work I cherish that time. I am on my barrier Island looking out to Sea. Then reality of housework, real work, laundry, cooking and baking keeps me on my toes! Sunshine Hugs to you!

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  5. I once saw Roy Orbison at a Glasgow theatre when I was 15 and I felt really sorry for him because no-one was there to see him, he was the support act; the theatre was full of screaming teenagers all there to see the main act: The Walker Brothers! I was in love with Scott Walker and was convinced he looked right at me and I was in a swoon all night. I bought a huge black and white poster and when I got home I just sat on the sofa and stared at it. I had no voice from all the screaming. My mum and dad had our neighbours round for supper and I was completely oblivious to their presence. As far as I was concerned it was just me and Scott. I remember it like it was yesterday.

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  6. I also like being alone. In my room. Door closed. Sometimes window open watching the squirrels or birds and listening to them.
    I actually reevaluated Facebook after commenting on your post and decided if I was advising of it’s ill ways and negativity then why was I on it! So I deleted my account. I feel much better now. 🙂

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    • From the comments, it sounds like alone time is essential for many of us! And good for you for deleting your FB account and feeling better. I decided not to go back, I do not think it would be healthy for me – I have been away this long and there should be no looking back. Thanks for stopping by – always appreciated. 🙂

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  7. As much as I love being with people, I, too, need “me” time to re-energize. Just don’t let yourself “sink” too far into the “lonely” alone part – ok my friend! You are too loved by so many! ❤ xo

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  8. As much as I love people, I too need alone time. I am very sensitive and pick up on everything emotional I feel going on around me and it can be exhausting. Now my husband, he is a lot like you describe and would love to work and live alone (well not without me 😉 ) What I found interesting, is that I am about to read a book that is the journals of May Sarton called Journal Of A Solitude. Your post made me think of this book. I love reading published diaries and journals. It is fascinating to enter into the deep thoughts and feelings and the honesty often found no where else. Sometimes I think maybe this is what is wrong with the world… not enough self reflection! Great post Terry!

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  9. I couldn´t agree more. I also need a lot of time for being with only myself, but that might be because I´m doing artsy stuff and this I couldn´t do very well with someone always watching over my shoulder 😉 And doing art is also helping finding myself, reflecting and just being. But there are also the times when I need other people around 😉

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      • You´re always welcome, Terry! 😀
        I´m happy too about it, believe me 😉
        Did I tell you? I started to give meditation another try, since you´ve convinced me to do so a couple of weeks ago, and it really seems to work out!! Not the whole time, of course, but there´re moments that seem to be just the thing…
        Mainly I started because of my eye and needing that bit extra strength and calmness meditation is supposed to provide. So, thank you so much for making me try again, Terry! 🙂 xxxxx

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  10. First of all, thank you for dropping by my blog.

    Your blog has a wealth of content, and I shall enjoy reading through them. Moreover, Orbison is one of my favorite singers, I especially like his rendition of Dream:

    Great post!

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