There are 2 songs with the title ‘Only the Lonely’; by Roy Orbison and The Motels, and I do like both songs.
This post is about me wanting to be alone and away from others. I have always considered myself a loner who prefers the silent life without noise, without light, without people. Many times, in my life I have wanted to escape to a deserted island away from everyone. Though I am a little spoiled, I would need my daily creature comforts on my deserted island. Food and water that is plentiful and easy to find; no fishing or hunting for me – there would be a kitchen on my deserted island where I could prepare my meals. Okay, back to only the lonely.
I know there are many people who find comfort in being alone; does this make us strange or out of touch? I don’t think so, for me being along brings comfort and reflection.
During the days after my chemotherapy treatment when I was at my extreme tired states, I would find comfort and reflection being along in the bedroom with the doors close. My behind closed doors at times was up to 12 hours during which I would sleep some but much of the time I would lay there in the bed and reflect.
My times alone bring me back to me. I at times become away from the center of me when around others and my mind with all its defects and short comings take over. I need time by myself to reflect and remember the many things I learned many years ago that brought a once unhappy suicidal person to a person that can be filled with life and happiness.
I need my time alone and I know the deserted island scenario will never come to pass and honestly in my heart and mind, I do need some people around some of the time. It may be the living as a hermit might be a little extreme for me, but it does have its attraction.
So, these 2 songs I like by Roy Orbison and The Motels, maybe they were written for different reasons then the reasons I have for being alone. But there appears to be sometime we all need at different times in our lives and that is alone time. For some, more than others. And during that alone time, it may be the lyrics from these 2 songs ring true now and again –
From ‘Only the Lonely’ by Roy Orbison –
There goes my baby
There goes my heart
They’re gone forever
So far apart
But only the lonely
Only the lonely
From ‘Only the Lonely’ by The Motels –
Only the lonely only the lonely can play
It’s like I told you only the lonely can play
Only the lonely
Only the lonely can play
I conclude with an excerpt from tinybuddha.com article ‘Enjoy Your Alone Time: Be Happy Without Seeking Validation’ –
I have found that the more time I spend alone, the more comfortable I become in my own skin because I can truly get to know myself. This provides me with more patience to accept myself as I am, wherever I am in my journey, on a daily basis.