Earlier this year in March, I wrote a post ‘What Does Love Got To Do With It?‘, that included the following –
Again I ask; what does love got to do with it?
Love has much to do with family. Love has everything to do with people we are meant to spend our lives with.
I love my parents and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my siblings and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my sons and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my husband and I tell him ‘I love you’.
Per psychcentral.com article ‘Is Love Losing its Meaning?’ –
This is a heavily debated topic. People often try to define love in terms of romantic euphoria; however, the word “love” generally is used so loosely that its meaning can become diluted. The truth is, “love” often is used to describe other emotions or strong feelings. Using the word “love” just saves us the trouble of having to figure out what we’re actually feeling. We can say we “love” anything, but what does love really mean to us?
In today’s post, I write the following –
I wrote the above post because I felt that word ‘love’ is used too much to describe feelings towards something. Notice the word I used ‘something’ rather than ‘someone’. I will be honest, I usually do not use that word ‘love’ toward someone else other than my family and spouse.
My post ‘Results‘, included a video of me discussing the results of my recent tests after chemotherapy and the announcement of my upcoming surgery. I received many comments including from my good friend Jodi over at The Creative Life In Between.
Jodi’s comment –
Love you Terry!!! You look wonderful despite what you must be going through! Stay positive sweet friend. You have spread more love than you will ever know! xo
My response –
Thank you Jodi, interesting choice of words ‘Love you Terry’, I will need to write a post about that – I know it sounds confusing at the moment! You are special and I am extremely fortunate for friends such as yourself!
Jodi’s response –
Interesting? Just the truth.
I will repeat what I wrote above – I will be honest, I usually do not use that word ‘love’ toward someone else other than my family and spouse.
This recently changed; because I did use that word ‘love’ towards you the readers of my blog. You never heard it, because I choose not to publish it. What was I thinking when I spoke that word? Where did that word come from? Why did I not let you hear it? The answers to the questions are; I was not thinking, just reacting – The heart – I felt awkward.
For my video posts, I usually record a video one time because I know what I want to say and the words flow freely and easily. The video in my ‘Results‘ post took 6 recording attempts. There were 3 attempts where other people walked near me and I stopped the recording. 1 recording was me walking and I felt it rushed. Another video was good and that is the one included in the previously mentioned post. My first recording I liked, even though there was a bit more surrounding noise than I prefer. The main reason to not use this recording was because at the end I was not thinking and just reacted from the heart and after viewing the video, I felt awkward.
The ‘Results‘ post was published and the comments were made and Jodi used that word ‘love’. I used that word first; but you never heard that word.
I believe I used that word first because I truly care about you and I truly feel you care about me. I see now I can use that word ‘love’ for those I truly care about; not just my family and not just my spouse.
I can use that word ‘love’ towards friends as well.
Here is my first video I choose not to use – (FYI: if you want to just hear me speak that word, start the video around the 3:25 mark)