Earlier this year in March, I wrote a post ‘What Does Love Got To Do With It?‘, that included the following –
Again I ask; what does love got to do with it?
Love has much to do with family. Love has everything to do with people we are meant to spend our lives with.
I love my parents and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my siblings and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my sons and I tell them ‘I love you’. I love my husband and I tell him ‘I love you’.
Per psychcentral.com article ‘Is Love Losing its Meaning?’ –
This is a heavily debated topic. People often try to define love in terms of romantic euphoria; however, the word “love” generally is used so loosely that its meaning can become diluted. The truth is, “love” often is used to describe other emotions or strong feelings. Using the word “love” just saves us the trouble of having to figure out what we’re actually feeling. We can say we “love” anything, but what does love really mean to us?
In today’s post, I write the following –
I wrote the above post because I felt that word ‘love’ is used too much to describe feelings towards something. Notice the word I used ‘something’ rather than ‘someone’. I will be honest, I usually do not use that word ‘love’ toward someone else other than my family and spouse.
My post ‘Results‘, included a video of me discussing the results of my recent tests after chemotherapy and the announcement of my upcoming surgery. I received many comments including from my good friend Jodi over at The Creative Life In Between.
Jodi’s comment –
Love you Terry!!! You look wonderful despite what you must be going through! Stay positive sweet friend. You have spread more love than you will ever know! xo
My response –
Thank you Jodi, interesting choice of words ‘Love you Terry’, I will need to write a post about that – I know it sounds confusing at the moment! You are special and I am extremely fortunate for friends such as yourself!
Jodi’s response –
Interesting? Just the truth.
I will repeat what I wrote above – I will be honest, I usually do not use that word ‘love’ toward someone else other than my family and spouse.
This recently changed; because I did use that word ‘love’ towards you the readers of my blog. You never heard it, because I choose not to publish it. What was I thinking when I spoke that word? Where did that word come from? Why did I not let you hear it? The answers to the questions are; I was not thinking, just reacting – The heart – I felt awkward.
For my video posts, I usually record a video one time because I know what I want to say and the words flow freely and easily. The video in my ‘Results‘ post took 6 recording attempts. There were 3 attempts where other people walked near me and I stopped the recording. 1 recording was me walking and I felt it rushed. Another video was good and that is the one included in the previously mentioned post. My first recording I liked, even though there was a bit more surrounding noise than I prefer. The main reason to not use this recording was because at the end I was not thinking and just reacted from the heart and after viewing the video, I felt awkward.
The ‘Results‘ post was published and the comments were made and Jodi used that word ‘love’. I used that word first; but you never heard that word.
I believe I used that word first because I truly care about you and I truly feel you care about me. I see now I can use that word ‘love’ for those I truly care about; not just my family and not just my spouse.
I can use that word ‘love’ towards friends as well.
Here is my first video I choose not to use – (FYI: if you want to just hear me speak that word, start the video around the 3:25 mark)
LOVE YOU too Terry! And I LOVE that you said it! It’s a great thing to LOVE! ❤ ❤
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Yes it is – see my comment to you makes sense now! Thanks Jodi! 🙂
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awh!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 ❤
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It’s so sweet that it just seemed to “slip out” of you, Terry. Let it happen. 💘
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That is did – I caught myself off guard! Thanks Van, Happy Wednesday! 🙂
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I do feel the word ‘love’ is often used in a different text to ‘I love you’ or I love a person, it does tend to come out freely for anything. But, I do believe it can be said to a close friend or friends as well as a family member or spouse, so long as it is meant ! 🙂 I know you felt a bit uncomfortable saying it once you realized what you had said, but it was said, and it is okay, It’s a different kind of love, there is no betrayal my friend. This video was great and I know a lot of us bloggers love you too. 🙂
Have a beautiful day 🙂
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Thanks Lynne for understanding, it was uncomfortable for me at the time and surprising! Anyway, very glad you and others understand! Thanks dear, my day is beautiful – the sun is out after we received record rainfall the past several days. 🙂
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I never say the word “love” toward anybody…not even family. I will say that I “love” something…like collard greens or spinach
I heard that phrase all of my life…from the same people who betrayed me over and over and over. THAT…is not love.
I “love” that so many of you can say it and I “love” that so many of you mean it. It just makes me very uncomfortable. (I know…dark and twisty.)
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No, no you are not dark and twisty – I appreciate your honesty Laurel, always know that! And by the way, I love collard greens also – hope you are having a good today – your friend, Terry 🙂
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Thank you, Terry…. 🙂
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I think Lynne H. said it best! As well, to love and to be loved is the best feeling. What a beautiful post Terry! Have a happy day!!
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Thank you very much Paula – you and others here are wonderful! Happy day to you as well. 🙂
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Oooh ho.. you dropped the L bomb on us terry..
awww. We love you 😘 too..
and we are praying for full recovery on that surgery..
it sounds really frightening..
but.. please go with a post I’ve attitude
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Thanks, yes the L bomb, as indicated I was just reacting and not thinking. Thanks for your nice comment – have a great day my friend. 🙂
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You know you love ❤️ us…
Don’t try to hold back the love you 😘 feel Maaan…
Have you a great day too
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“Love” is many things to people Terry-Being in-love is different than the love of family, spousal love, parental love, etc. To love a friend is to care about them, to be kind, thoughtful, generous, supportive and real. Nothing wrong with sharing that video with us. TO: Laurel my heartaches for you to have been betrayed by love and not feel that emotion. I love my family, hubs, kitty cat and care a great deal about people so, in that context we can love outside of that my friend. Sunshine Hugs.
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Thank you Cheryl for your understanding and explanation – I like it very much – makes good sense. Also thank you for stopping by each day! Sunshine Hugs to you as well. 🙂
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I can understand the uncomfortableness of saying “I love you” to virtual strangers. However, the ‘slip’ you made was probably more heartfelt than you realized at the time. Well, of course it was — you wrote a blog post about it! It is obvious your blog followers are here for you–those you have met in person as well as those you haven’t. Sending a virtual hug your way.
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Thank you Joyce for understanding and relating to my video and post. I really caught myself off guard when I said that word in the video, so much so, I felt uncomfortable using that video. Thanks for reading, commenting and the virtual hug! Happy Wednesday. 🙂
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Hi dearest Terry! Love love love you!! You are a special person and genuine!
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Thank you Lynn, how fortunate I am to have many wonderful friends here who care for me – I am honored – truly I am. Thank you dear for your continued special friendship. 🙂
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xxxxx
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Lyn, I hope this note finds you well and happy. Since you were one of my very first contributors I wanted to thank you for contributing to the Senior Salon. Tomorrow marks 52 weeks!
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Wow that is so exciting! Thanks so much for making this available to all of us! I hope I will be back adding my posts soon!
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In Greek philosophy there are two different types of love. There is Eros which, put simply, is the ‘in love’ love and there is Agape (pronounced Agapee)which is the platonic love that we have for others and if you want to get advanced there are various layers in between and binding the two and separating them. What you feel for Gary is Eros love. At some level what you feel for your family is Agape but there is Eros in there too. What you feel for your friends, those that you care about is pure Agape. This is an area I am fascinated by …. love is all around us and love is all we need and with love I send you hugs from over the sea, my very dear special friend.
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I had no knowledge about the Greek philosophy love! Very interesting and it makes perfect sense to me, thank you Osyth – how special am I to have so much love around me. I certainly send love back out to you across the sea and hope your visit is special and going well for you! 🙂
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The Greeks were a smart bunch in many ways! My visit is going very well but I always find it very hard to write when I am at my mother’s house …. you must be getting ready for your cruise by now?
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Yes, getting ready for the cruise – watch for tomorrows’s post. 🙂
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Woohoooooooo!!
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Osyth, you always add another fascinating dimension to a discussion. This Wednesday will mark 52 weeks of the Senior Salon. Thanks for coming along for the ride.
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Bernadette, travelling wontberry as I have been this past couple of weeks with such tenuous internet and little time, I have not posted as I intended, the first parts of my A-Z of observations from the US. I will rectify it and I must say – no thanks to me all thanks to you for hosting this wonderful salle des amies!
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We love you too………………………..<3
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Thank you Brooke – what a great group of friends I have here – so much love! 🙂
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Always………………..
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Love is in the air…Love your post!
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Thank you very much Fabiola – I appreciate you stopping by to read and comment. Have a happy day! 🙂
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Sending you LOVE Terry! ❤
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Thank you very much Kathryn – there is lots of love going on around here. 🙂
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You’re a brave, open, wonderful man. What a great point about all the different kinds of love. And I’m so glad that you posted your “results” video again because although I did see the original post and like it I didn’t leave a comment because I wasn’t sure how to write what I wanted to say.
I wanted to say that I’m so happy that you and Gary have a wonderful cruise to go on and enjoy and Christmas to celebrate as a type of refuelling for the next part of your difficult health journey. And that although I’m perhaps not one of you’re closest friends from wp I still send you lots of love. Because as you say there’s all kinds of love and that’s what makes our world great.
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Thank you Amanda for your kind comment and your support and understanding. Gary and I look forward to the upcoming cruise (which starts today) and the upcoming holidays. I appreciate you very much – have a great day! 🙂
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🛳⚓️🍾
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This was very special Terry! Maybe we use the word Love for too many things, but I don’t think we could ever say it enough!
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Yes, I agree. Thanks dear, hope your week is going well.
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Terry, I am looking over the comments to this post and smiling. So much love given and received can only make the world a richer and finer place for us all. This Wednesday will mark 52 weeks of the Senior Salon. Thanks for coming along for the ride.
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I agree Bernadette, certainly the wonderful people here on WP can make this world a better place. Thank you for the Senior Salon.
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