I am wrapping-up some topics that I started to write about and never did finish. This post I started early last year, and then it sat quietly waiting for me to complete it.
Because my OCD tells me that if I start something I must complete it; this also applies to posts I write – I will be bothered if I do not complete them – so, here I am finishing this post and concluding this topic.
This year will bring many different topics to write about and I have a feeling this one will not be one of them and will be left in the past.
So here we go –
In my post ‘BPD; is this me?‘, I wrote the following –
After I wrote this comment, I decided to do some online research on Borderline Personality Disorder, and after reading several websites, “Yes, this is me.”

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I do not recall ever receiving this diagnosis during my therapy years and I found that Borderline Personality Disorder was not an official diagnosable disorder until 1980. The late 80s and the 90s are the years I received therapy that was really geared more for my depression, what was causing it and how to get through it. There were never underlining disorders that were treated, but me knowing me and hindsight being 20/20 indicates I most likely had an underlining issue.
So, I decided to diagnosis myself and believe this is just one of many reasons for the person I am today.
In today’s post I write the following –
I have performed some additional research on Borderline Personality Disorder. And the results are maybe I do not have BPD; maybe I am looking to label myself so that I can help myself – you know, find a cure for myself. But then again, why do I need a label? Why not view myself as an individual and work on myself as an individual. All these years, this is what I have been doing.
Several months ago, I was watching a movie and heard the phrase ‘I spent a lifetime looking for a lifetime.’ That is what I have been doing all these years and I need no label – I am who I am.

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As my wonderful friend and fellow blogger Osyth put it in her magnificent post ‘One shaft of light that shows the way’ –
Death comes to us all and when it does there is no moment to regret the moments that you forgot to be thankful. So I implore you to put politics aside, squish ill-will, banish anxiety about things you can’t fix and just be the best version of you that you can be.
I am trying to be the best version I can be. With all my faults, short-comings and defects; I no longer need to label myself with Borderline Personality Disorder or anything else.
Life is short – I will die someday – I will die being the best version I can be.
A wonderful thought and message! Thanks for the inspiration !!
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You are very welcome – thanks Jodi! 🙂
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Words to live by. Well said!
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Thank you Paula, hope your week is going well. 🙂
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Of course ! And we’re glad you finished your post. 💗 💖 💘 💝
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Thanks Van, sometimes it takes awhile, but eventually posts will be completed. Happy Day! 🙂
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👏🏻😊
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Thanks Chris! 🙂
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The one human race 🙂
Hope you are feeling well. Happy New Year Terry!
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Yes, absolutely – Happy New Year to you as well Sadie. 🙂
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Being the best you can be sounds like a great goal and plan for life!
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Something I work on everyday Sarah! Happy Thursday! 🙂
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As do I! Happy Thursday!
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Those words are the greatest words to live by, I believe that. And, you are the best version you can be, and I know you will continue to be the best version you can be, no matter what. How are you today my friend? Hope your pain has eased and that you are able to rest a bit better. 🙂 x
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Thanks Lynne for your very nice words. Honestly, my pain continues to be with me – more about that very soon. Thanks dear, hope your day is wonderful. 🙂
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Oh no, so sorry to hear that 😦
The day has been good, thank you….just very hot and humid 🙂 x
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Oh my dear, dear friend …. I loved this post and not because you have humbled me by quoting my words and linking to that post but because it cheers me and delights me that you are who you are and you embrace it and you strive to be the best you that you can be. I am privileged to call you my friend so don’t change a thing …. you are the best you I can imagine 😊
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You always inspire me – you know that right? I am also privileged my dear Osyth. Hope your trip continues to go well and you are staying safe and warm. 🙂
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I love the words – I am who I am and being the best versions of ourselves. I think those are the things we should all strive for.
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Yes, certainly words we can all live by. I hope everyone in your household is settling well back into a routine. Sometimes tough after the holidays! 🙂
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Thank you, we are. I hope your household is full of sunshine and warmth this week. It is super chilly here!
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A lovely, inspiring post Terry. I can’t help feeling the world would be a much nicer place if we all tried harder to be the best version of ourselves that we could. 🙂
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Thank you Su, one person at a time – we can do it. Thanks as always for stopping by to read and comment. 🙂
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I think you let this post sit awhile because in your subconscious you really did not think you had BPD. I love you being the best version you can be!
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Sometimes when I start a post, with an original thought, I have to let it sit for awhile. Thanks Kathryn, Happy Friday! 🙂
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You are so right not to try to label yourself. Even psychiatrists get it wrong – I have had some incorrect diagnoses. The only thing I am pretty sure of is that you have OCD – I am just the same! Mental health is a wavy line, it can change with circumstances, age and health. Teddy and Gary have to put up with us having endless lists that we don’t follow and then get upset about. Yet, there was something about us that attracted two very handsome husbands. 💋
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Yes the OCD, but I am getting better at that as time goes by! And those handsome husbands, what can I say – we are very lucky! 🙂
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Aren’t we just? And we have #1 boyfriend and girlfriend. We are just soooo hot! 😘
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Bravo, Terry!
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Thank you Jennie – Happy Friday! 🙂
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Loved this Terry! Yes you are special!
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Thank you Lynn, you are very kind. 🙂
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Labels, which themselves are fashionable, are best avoided
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Yes, I agree – thanks Derrick.
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Wonderful message and the best way to live your life! We should all do that! 😄
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Thank you Sarah for the comment. I hope your weekend is going well for you. 🙂
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Reblogged this on The Borderline World.
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Thank you! 🙂
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