October of last year, I wrote a post ‘…just listen‘, here are some excerpts –
Just listen to my words, they have purpose, they have a way with them in describing someone, something, an occurrence, an event, a moment, a feeling, an emotion.
I just need to express, I need to let out, I need to put the information out there and get it out of my head.

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Let it be express and let the words be read. This is my mind, my complex thinking of many thoughts and many emotions; and though it may be complicated, sometimes simple, sometimes difficult to understand and to comprehend, to calculate.
In today’s post, I write the following –
I write posts because I have found enjoyment in writing and posting and yes, I admit it, I enjoy the comments.
This blog is a reflection of me, but not the whole me. There are many posts here with aspects of me, but still not the whole me.
I value your comments, your thoughts, your support and your encouragement. And over the course of many past months and comments from you; you I consider my friends.
But because the whole me is not written here on this blog; there are feelings and emotions and thoughts that I still keep to myself.
You may remember back in September of last year, I had a hospital stay of almost a week. At that time, I was undergoing chemotherapy and I had a high fever. That hospital stay was early in my treatment and I was very tired and short on patience. Part of my experience during that hospital stay included some not so pleasant conversations with people there to do their job; to take care of me.

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A couple of those conversations involved the other person trying to comfort me by providing their personal experience that they thought somehow would make me feel better.
I admit to you and everyone; my cancer, my health issues, my surgery, my aches and pains – they are all about me – nobody else, but me.
I am selfish in that someone else that believes providing their personal experience will somehow make me feel better; well, they are wrong. I am selfish because my cancer, my health issues, my surgery, my aches and pains – they are all about me.
So, because many parts of me are here in blog posts, but not all of me, I ask for thoughts, support and encouragement, but not personal experiences.

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Again, as indicated in my post last October –
I just need to express, I need to let out, I need to put the information out there and get it out of my head. Let it be express and let the words be read. This is my mind, my complex thinking of many thoughts and many emotions; and though it may be complicated, sometimes simple, sometimes difficult to understand and to comprehend, to calculate.
Sometimes self-care is mistaken for selfishness. Remember to take care of yourself!
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Thank you Paula, I appreciate your comment. Have a great weekend. 🙂
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Awesome self-care!!
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Thank you Alexis for your comment, they are always appreciated here my friend. Have a great weekend. 🙂
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Take care😊
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Thank you very much, I will. Have a great weekend. 🙂
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It is not selfish to put yourself first when you are sick, it is logical.
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Thank you David for your understanding. Have a great weekend. 🙂
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Completely understandable. Sometimes people want to offer support and comfort but don’t know how, sharing their personal experience lets you know that they do have a sense of what you are experiencing, that they can empathise. But I do know what you mean.
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Chris, after having a conversation this morning with Gary about this post, that was his response also. My hope is that readers do feel they can continue to leave a comment here, because I do welcome all comments. Thank you for your understanding. 🙂
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I understand completely. This is your blog, and this is all about you. It does not make you selfish. Everyone deals with circumstances differently, and this is your way, your chosen way. The way it just is. I hope that you are feeling a bit more rested my friend. Hugs 🙂 x
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Thank you Lynne for your understanding, my hope with this post it that readers continue to feel comments are welcomed – my intention is not to make others feel they cannot leave a comment. I appreciate you and yes I am resting some. Happy Weekend. 🙂
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You should put yourself first dear! Take care of you! xxx
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Thank you Lynn for you understanding. Stay warm this weekend. 🙂
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I’ll let you into a secret …. if you got a hold of my cell phone and flicked through the contacts you would find one called ‘Little Miss Me, Me, Me!’ Which is of course my own number in case I forget it. We are all selfish, we have to be and particularly we have to be when we are up against it. So you carry on being Mister Selfish because this Little Miss is perfectly content to encourage you thus.
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Thanks Osyth for allowing me to be selfish, I need to be every once in awhile. I hope the weather where you are is treating you well – it is very chilly here this weekend. BRRRRR! 🙂
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No thanks needed …. you do just what you need to do 🙂 14F here the last two days but probably warmer than Massachusetts (I haven’t dared look!!!)
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There is nothing wrong with caring for yourself, you know your feelings emotions better than anyone else take good care of yourself my friend ❤
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Thank you Brooke for your support, I appreciate you. Have a great weekend my friend. 🙂
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Let it out buddy. NOBODY knows what you are feeling or going through but YOU. only sweet you. Xo
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Thank you Jodi for your understanding and support. Have a great weekend and stay warm. 🙂
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You too buddy. Probably a bit easier for you to stay warm. It is 5 degrees here right now. Brrr!❄️❄
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For the past month I have been very self involved, so I get it and I don’t think that you (or I) are selfish…life is life and when you go through something painful there just is no energy for anyone or anything else……I think it’s just a human thing…I simply have had nothing to give. Perhaps I am wrong but that’s my take on it. Wishing you blessings of good health, always…
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Thank you Carol, I know what you are going through and I appreciate your understanding. I also wish the best for you my friend for good health to come your way. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you so much, it means a lot
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Beautifully written and I would say it is could to be selfish to first realise yourself and then once u know yourself let go and get to selflessness. Great post 👍👍👍👍
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Thank you for the very nice comment, I appreciate you taking the time to read. Have a happy day. 🙂
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Welcome
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Self-care is the first step toward healing. That’s not being selfish, it’s being wise.
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Thank you for your understanding and kind comment. I appreciate you stopping by to read today – have a great day. 🙂
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Your readers understand. I certainly do.
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Thank you Jennie, I was afraid I might upset some readers with this post – was not my intention. Hope you are having a great weekend. 🙂
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🙂
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I completely understand where you are coming from Terry! I like that you express yourself honestly on your blog. Take care of yourself first!
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Kathryn, I was somewhat concerned when publishing this post because I did not want to upset anyone. But, I do want to be honest here and I thank you for appreciating that. Hope you are staying warm this weekend. 🙂
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Thank you Terry, it is snowing AGAIN and 16 degrees. I’ll just have to pretend I’m in Florida. 🙂
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Believe it or not, it was in the 30s today, and tonight we are in the 20s! Does not last for long, thank goodness. 🙂
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Selfish…how delightful wonderful to be selfish….everyone should be, and there should never be anything wrong with that…..now saying that if you had a bag of jelly beans and wouldn’t share, then I might call you selfish…LOL but always put you and your health first….that’s what its all about….xxxxxxxxxxxxxxkat
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Thanks kat for understanding, you always have the right words! 🙂
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We need to care for ourselves….nothing selfish about it! Sending well wishes! 🙂
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Thank you Koko, I truly appreciate your support and well wishes. Have a great week. 🙂
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Wow so true
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Thank you for stopping by to read and comment. Have a great day. 🙂
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