Little over 4 weeks now since surgery, since the new me was created or updated from the old me.
Many of you know, I now have an urostomy bag on the outside of my body because I now no longer have a bladder.
These past weeks have me struggling at times, less with the physical part, though that can be challenging at times, but more with the mental part. The changes to my body at times brings me to tears; what has taken place to me and how am I supposed to accept this?
As my body continues to recover and become stronger, I know too will my mind, my thinking and my attitude.
A couple of weeks ago in my post ‘my struggle with cancer‘, I updated you with the most recent information concerning my health and my cancer. That post received many comments from you with your always welcomed support and encouragement. Those comments, your comments have great meaning to me and bring me strength in more ways than you can imagine.
My friend Kat over at Time No Matter left me one of those strengthening comments –
IN my belief of healing and beating all odds…is first the positive attitude, and man do you have that one nailed down….your outlook on life up close and personal is so important to your healing….in my opinion of course, and its always right !!! lol second is your support group…you couldn’t be more supported if you were a pair of veins in good Ted hose…LOL you have a loving, caring, devoted husband, your personal family, Roxy, and then all of us…there isn’t a day that goes by your not in my thoughts !!!! We may have never met, but my friend I hold you near and dear !!! And then there’s your medical team…and I think you have a wonderful group of professionals that know their stuff….I know you feel the same as you have literally put your life in their hands and they are caring, loving, knowledgeable group of people…finally there is the sprit, social ideologies, we all believe in our own ways, no ones God, Goddess, Buddha, moon worshiper – whomever/whatever is better than someone else’s, but to me its important to be spiritual…and I know you are……you have cancer on the run….you are over a huge hurdle in your fight…..you’ve got this my friend….one day at a time…one moment at a time….danced in the sliver of a moon for you last night….sending you much warmth, love and moon beams……xxxxkat
I responded with the following –
You bring tears to my eyes, because I know what you write is the truth. I have this past week have had my challenges mentally as I struggle to accept the new me and still the unknown that lies ahead. I find strength in your words and your friendship. kat, you are special – I appreciate you very much, thanks dear.
So, as you see from her comment and many others I receive, I have great support from you that brings great strength to me. The physical strength is returning and with your help I know my mental strength will continue to increase as well.
Kat is so right Terry…your attitude and strength will help you! You’re on my thoughts and in my prayers every morning. God bless and continue to heal you in mind and body…Hugs 😊
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Thanks Linda, I do know I have many wonderful supportive friends here and your continued support and encouragement are a great resource in my recovery. Thank you, have a great day. 🙂
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You too Terry 😊
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You are so strong and an inspiration!!
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Thank you Lynn, I appreciate you very much. Hope you are having a great week. 🙂
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Thanks dear! you too! I know this adjustment is a tough one but you are handling it with grace xx
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I, too, think about you every day, especially at the end of the day to send you good thoughts and strength. You are so much stronger than I would be, I am a terrible patient, I get so frustrated, (I was once in a full body cast, you did not want to know me then!) and I know it must be so hard for you to accept your new circumstances, but it is only a month and you have already made so much physical and mental progress. Hang in there, you’ll get there with Gary’s help and all our positive vibes urging you on 😊👏🏻👊🏻
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Chris, you are correct, it is yours and other’s positive vibes that are helping me. The great support here is amazing, thank you for your continued support – I truly appreciate you. 🙂
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You seem to be an amazing person. I want to personally take this time to let you know that a I admire both your courage to let the world in on what has to be a tough time for you and your strength. I hope that every thing works out for you and may you continue to have the strength to get you through this.
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Thank you for your very kind comment and support. I appreciate you stopping by today to read and comment. Have a happy day. 🙂
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Dear Terry, I have nominated you for the Valiant Bloggers award.You can go to https://koolkosherkitchen.wordpress.com/2017/02/15/chocolate-roses-for-valiant-bloggers/ to see it.
You are in no way obligated to respond, of course, but I am hoping you do because your valiant struggle is an inspiration for many.
Keep smiling,
Dolly
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Thank you Dolly for the nomination, I read it earlier but had to wait a little while before I could leave a comment. You my friend are very special and I truly appreciate you very much. I am behind on some things these days and I hope to respond to this award soon. Thanks again, have a happy day. 🙂
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Dear Terry, you truly deserve this award! At this time, I don’t think you could be either behind or ahead, or along any timelines, for that matter. As long as you are making those baby steps, and not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally, you are moving forward! Keep moving and keep smiling!
Blessings,
Dolly
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Thank you Dolly. 🙂
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Very welcome!
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Being sensitive to your current struggles Terry-on a brighter note, I hope that when the time comes to venture on the Highway across country, you will indeed visit Kat-I think you all would have a wonderful, fun time together! Have you ever been to AZ.? Oh, I may just be getting ahead of myself here since it is only one month into your recovery, looking forward is better than looking back I think. Have a great Wednesday!
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Oh Cheryl, I very much want to meet Kat and many other wonderful friends I have here. Just thinking about the possibility brings a smile to my face and a sense of excitement. Thank you for your encouragement, you have a great Wednesday also. 🙂
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Most Welcome Terry-you will have a very long list of places to travel with all your friends here!!! LOL
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Such a beautiful comment and expression of support and love. You are so loved!!!
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I am very fortunate to have many wonderful friends here – great support! Thanks Jodi, you are one of those wonderful friends who I appreciate. 🙂
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Kat nails it with that comment. You are tremendous and the support and love you have is helping you to be tremendous. Day by day, little by little, step by step you are emerging into the light. It is hard, terribly hard but you are doing it and Team Terry is right here calling you on. I join Kat in sending moonbeams – in fact last night I looked out of the kitchen window just as the clouds cleared to reveal the shiniest of moons looking down – your moon.
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Team Terry, what a great name. Osyth, you and others here are my support that help me more than you can ever know. How fortunate am I to have such wonderful friends – Team Terry. Happy day dear, I hope all is going well with you. 🙂
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One day at a time my friend, one day at a time.
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Yes, one day at a time – that is the way I am living these days. I dream about the future, but also live in the present. Thanks for stopping by, I always appreciate your comments. Happy Day! 🙂
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The magic of friendship! A very lovely comment it is! 🙂 xxxxx
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Yes, I receive many wonderful comments and I truly have wonderful friends as well. Thanks Sarah, have a happy week. 🙂
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Have a happy day and a happy week dear Terry!! 😄😚
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I can only imagine how hard this mental struggle is for you, and how heavily it weighs down on you. Not easy my friend, and I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all this. Kat certainly hit the nail on the head with each word she wrote. You really are so fortunate to have all these wonderful, loving people around you, and I know that helps. Keep on doing what you are doing. Each day is a new day, with new strengths, and soon, I know it will become easier. Hang in there my friend, We are all here with you and for you cheering you on. Love and hugs 🙂 x
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Thank you Lynne, just as Kat leaves me inspiring comments, so do you as well. I always appreciate your comments, and you stopping by each and every day. Happy Day my friend. 🙂
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Happy Day to you too, and thank you. 🙂 x
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What a lovely message and full of wisdom. Hope you’re feeling mentally/emotionally stronger soon. X
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Thank you, each day a little stronger. I appreciate you stopping by today. 🙂
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Feel the love Terry 💕 may it uplift and nourish you, and help you get stronger every day 🌹
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Yes, it does help me become stronger every day. Thanks Val. 🙂
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You are doing so well Terry and so short time after your operation 🙂
It was a beautiful comment and your answer too and you do have much support, we do all wish to see you in a good shape being happy for your new life.
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Thank you Irene, I appreciate your support. All is well, hope it is with you also. 🙂
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Thank you Terry, I do much to improve my health by yoga etc. and I love it 🙂
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I don’t know Kat, but her supportive comment was beautiful, and she speaks for so many of us.
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Thank you Van, she is special as you are too. I appreciate all my friends here. Happy Day. 🙂
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Thank you for sharing. I can’t imagine how much it would get to you certain days. I believe that sharing is a first step to accepting and move forward. I’m sure it is also helping a lot of other people see the light and stay strong!
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Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate you stopping by to read and comment. Happy day to you. 🙂
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Kat’s comment is brilliant and it’s wonderful that you chose to highlight it. It’s going to take a while (and a lot of virtual spoons) for your old mind to come to terms with the new (and improved) you. Sending hugs and more spoons.
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I am fortunate to have many wonderful friends who leave wonderful, supportive comments. Time ticks and each day brings improvement. Thanks Peggy, expect a virtual spoon post soon. 🙂
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Indeed an incredible comment from Kat. She managed to say what I (and I’m sure many of us), have wanted to say but been unable to articulate so well. Here’s to warmth, love and moonbeams.
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Yes, I believe she did as well Amanda. Thank you for your continued support – have a great day. 🙂
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I am so glad the comments of your cyber-friends (and other-wise) have helped you out so much with your struggles Terry. Your struggles are real, but it appears you can cope with them with such a supportive group behind you. Bless you and Happy Hump Day! (Almost over!) ❤
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Kathryn, I very much have a wonderful supportive group here. You all have helped me tremendously. Thanks you and hope you have a wonderful day! 🙂
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Terry, I am sure the “bag” is a constant reminder of what was taken from you. You have come a long way. Your feelings are understandable. My hope for you is that it will eventually become a reminder to you that you made it through so much. And that you are amazing!
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Blue, what an inspiring comment. I have to remember the words you just wrote, use the constant reminder as to what I have made it through. I like that and certainly will use it. Thanks dear. 🙂
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Lots of hugs for you Terry… and Gary!!!
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Dear Terry, As I said before, take your time to adjust to your new reality and take your time to morn your losses. If you do this you will move past the sadness of your loss into gratitude for what you have – and Kat summarized what you have brilliantly. Hugs to you my friend.
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Thank you Bernadette, I will say, it is becoming a little easier as the days pass, but there is still adjustments to be made. Thanks for you always supportive comments – have a great day. 🙂
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You have long proved your capacity for adjustment, Terry
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Thank you Derrick, I appreciate your kind comment. Happy day my friend. 🙂
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Thank you! 🙂
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Terry, you’re always in my prayers and thoughts. You have such a powerful positive attitude!❌⭕️
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Thank you Roxie for your continued support, I appreciate you very much. I hope all is well with you. 🙂
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Oh my Terry…I am moved…..you are my inspiration……and I love Team Terry…..one day we will meet and I will get to hug you my friend….thanks you for the lovely words…..xxxxxxxxxxxxkat
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kat, you are one of my biggest supporters on Team Terry. You inspire me with your always positive, fun and loving comments. Yes, I think one day we will meet – and the hugs will take place. Thanks for your comments, they mean a great deal to me. Happy Weekend! 🙂
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Smiling right back at you…..raining in the desert…..yay!!!
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Rain is good, we had a little this morning – the upcoming week will be beautiful! 🙂
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We have had a great deal of rain this season….the desert floor is green….we are hoping for a colorful spring…can’t wait….we also had the wind storm from hell last night….already been out picking up crap from around the neighborhood in the yard….LOL….but now its just a light rain…yay….
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My family has prayed for you and your family ever since I read about your struggles and your surgery. Your positive attitude is so inspiring to me. I’m sure you have many down days as well but yet you continue to spread sunshine to others here and I am sure offline
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Thank you for your continued support and prayers. I appreciate you stopping by to read and comment. Also thank you for following my blog. Have a great day. 🙂
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You have experienced quite a journey and I loved Kat’s message…Prayers that you continue on with the positive as you have been. Hugs to you ❤
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Thank you Sandra, I have great support here on WP and I will continue with the positive! Hope you are having a good day. 🙂
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So far so good! Myself as well…staying positive 🙂
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Stay positive and keep smiling, Terry.
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Thank you Eugenia, I certainly will! I appreciate you reading and commenting. 🙂
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