In my post ‘ESTRANGED‘, I concluded with the following –
One of my sons calls on a regular basis – thank you son. The other two sons do not call me and in the past I would call them, but now no longer do I call.
These 2 sons I saw at Thanksgiving and they were aware of my surgery. These 2 sons I have not heard from since my surgery. These 2 sons I have not spoken with since Thanksgiving.
Are we estranged?
Again, I just do not understand why?
In the past, I had asked myself, what did I do or not do to deserve the absence from my life; the no communication and the appearance of not caring?
Again, I refuse to blame myself any longer.
Again, I refuse to cry anymore tears.
But it does still bothers me, more so today, because my life has changed, my health has changed.
In today’s post, I write the following –
Since I wrote that post, these 2 sons I have not spoken with since Thanksgiving reached out to me. Once of them called me on my birthday, the other did not acknowledge it. The one that did call on my birthday, he apologized for not calling earlier.
He indicated he has been extremely busy and though that is not a good excuse, he has had much to do and did not find the time. We caught up with each other and I provided him the update on my health and treatment. Me knowing this son, it will be awhile before I hear from him again.
Then one evening, I was surprised when my phone rang and it was my son #1. I was already in bed and in extreme pain and therefore I did not answer it. The next day I texted him and told him I appreciated him calling and he could back the upcoming weekend. I received no text back and I did not receive a phone call. This did not surprise me or upset me, I am used to this typical routine. So, I waited about a week and called him and we did finally connect and chatted for a while. Again, same as other son, he is extremely busy and though that is not a good excuse, he has had much to do and did not find the time. We caught up with each other and I provided him the update on my health and treatment. Me knowing this son, it will be awhile before I hear from him again.
I know my son’s lives are busy, I believe them. There was a time in my life where I was busy also working many hours and little time for other things in life.
Back during my ‘busy days’, we did not have smartphones.
Yes, we had cellphones, but they were not smart. And though I was very busy with work, I always made time to call my parents and my sons. Today I feel there is no excuse to have some sort of communication with someone.
Gone are the days where our communication were letters and phone calls from land lines.
There are many forms of communication today – a simple text is easy and fast.
I do not always need a phone call, a text will do – but I guess they are too busy to do that also.