Chats, Tears & Love

Last month, in my post ‘Phone Calls‘, I wrote the following –

(note: since the very beginning of my journey with my cancer, all procedures and tests and treatments; all resulted in bad news.  I have not once received good news in the past 1 ½ years.  NOT ONCE)


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So, the news of my cancer spreading and growing was received on a Friday; and Saturday Gary made a couple of calls.

What was discussed in these phone calls?

Gary was honest and sincere and direct.  He was caring and sensitive and calm.  He called these 2 people to let them know the truth concerning my current health situation.  He told them I am in a great deal of pain to the point I am using a cane to help me walk.  He told them I have lost almost 40 lbs. and my appetite is not always the best.  He told them the results of the latest scan.


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He told them what is to come with regards to my future treatment and the slim possibility of positive results.  He told them more than likely we would not make it to Texas for Thanksgiving.  He told them he felt it important that they (my family) consider making plans to visit me here in Florida.

In today’s post, I write the following –

You remember last month on Father’s Day weekend, I received a surprise visit from my 3 sons?  My heart was happy and the time spent together that weekend is priceless.  It was by far the best Father’s Day I have ever had.

I just recently had more visitors that left yesterday after a weeklong visit.   My dad and stepmom drove from Texas to come visit me.  The time spent with my dad was special and I feel a closeness to him I have never felt before.  We chatted about our relationship and the mistakes we made along the way, and the love we have for each other.  We talked about my current health situation and we cried together and he provided me support only a dad can.

The weeklong visit was fun, special and very emotional and one I will never forget.  My dad has Parkinson’s that has progressed in recent years; he is lovingly taken care of by my stepmom.  She is an amazing lady, who I have great respect for.  I know my dad is in good hands with her, just like I am in good hands with Gary.

Image3Thank you dad, for taking the time to visit me.

I love you,


58 thoughts on “Chats, Tears & Love

  1. Oh, this is so beautiful, and I am so happy that you got to spend a week with your dad. These are special times for both you and your dad. You are blessed to have such a wonderful family. Hope you have a relaxed weekend my friend. 🙂 x

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  2. What a beautiful photo. Nice to be able to speak more honestly with parents as we get older and for them to be more honest with us. Wonderful that you could have these visits with your sons, dad and stepmom. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that as we evolve, others are evolving too–our parents included. Whatever mistakes were made are in the past — why carry them forward. In the photo, you are a father and son who are in the present, no matter how difficult the present is. As Kerry said, a very poignant photo.

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    • Gillian, my dad and I had some very honest conversations when he was here. As you indicated we both have evolve and we have put those mistakes away and started anew. We both are short on time, we are now both in a better place with regards to our relationship. Thank you for your touching comment and I appreciate you stopping by today to read and comment. Have a great weekend. 🙂


    • I am honored to have an outlet that allows me to express the events of my journey. I appreciate you and others taking the time to read and comment – have a great weekend. 🙂


  3. That’s a fantastic photo of you and your dad. So happy you could spend loving time together and were able say some of the things people often forget to say when they have the chance. Sending hugs and virtual spoons.

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    • Thank you very much Kathryn. My dad and I had a great visit and we certainly enjoyed our time together. I never imagined we both would be using a walker at the same time – we do look great together. Thanks for stopping by today, I appreciate you very much. 🙂

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