About Us

This site was originally created by my deceased husband “Terry” to share his life which like most people was filled with both happiness and sadness, successes and disappointments. He started this blog at age 55 and at that time he realized that as human beings we would not be on this earth forever. He felt at that time a need to accomplish so much more and to begin experiencing life to its fullest. In his early 20s he had many years of therapy to combat depression, but over time realized that there are actually many other people out there that are not much different from himself. He understood that most people live average lives, filled with many ups and downs and varying challenges and goals that we all strive for. So, he candidly asked himself, what truly made his life more special than others, but then as he thought about it he realized….nothing really?

Terry originally created his blogsite to write about his life. He hoped that maybe other people could relate to his writings and that it may help them in some way to confront challenges within their own lives. However, as he thought about it again, maybe his writings would just be a way to help himself as a person to accept his life as it was and to become content. Either way, Terry’s blog transformed into something wonderful which ultimately impacted so many people. Little did Terry realize that shortly after starting his blog that he would develop cancer and that for the next few years he would be fighting for his life with hopes that his cancer could be eradicated. During these trying times, through his blog and his writings and because of your kind comments and support, it helped him to cope with his medical condition and to accept that as his health worsened and as his cancer spread, that his life on the earth would soon be coming to an end. Through your kind words, dedicated support and genuine love, Terry he was able to remain remarkably strong and to confront his fate right to the very end. On September 1, 2017, our dear Terry passed away and was immediately welcomed by God and other loved ones that passed before him to the wonderful Gates of Heaven.

I never realized the tremendous impact that Terry’s blogsite would ultimately have upon me and others. When he first began writing he did so merely to express his deep thoughts and to share aspects about his own life. His blog later transitioned into a wonderful tool to help him to confront his diagnosis of cancer and ultimately to accept his fate. Little did I realize that his writings, photos and videos would become such a precious gift for me to cherish and to be used as a means to keep the memory of Terry’s short life on this earth alive.

What is so remarkable is that things often happen in life for a reason. As I reflect back, Terry had no idea when he started his blogsite what the future would hold for him. However, his blogsite in some ways may have truly been developed by him as an ultimate means to help me to cope with my life after his passing. By continuing to keep this blogsite active after Terry’s death and deciding to begin sharing my thoughts and emotions in life with others has become a helpful and effective therapeutic tool for me to keep moving forward. Your kind comments, support, encouragement and love has definitely helped me to be able to cope and to accept Terry’s death as God’s will. Terry’s passing and this blogsite makes me realize more now than ever that life is truly fragile and when we will ultimately be called to our eternal life by our maker is truly out of our control. All we can do for now while on this earth is to do our best to continue to embrace life to its fullest and to strive to become a positive example for others and to love and be kind to one another.

I started to write on this blogsite just a few days after Terry’s death in September 2017. I feel that I will continue to blog and to express my thoughts about many topics and to also use it as a means to move forward in life and to accept in a positive way any challenges that I might be confronted with along the way.

Love to All,

Gary

316 thoughts on “About Us

  1. I reading your story and we have a lot in common. I’m 55 with a boring life, depression at a young age, breast cancer survivor who love to read and want to keep writing. I can’t believe I found someone who thinks like me. This is a lovely blog.

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  2. I find your handle very interesting…thank you for stopping by my blog and I’ve read yours in return. There’s a whole community of 50 somethings here sharing their stories, so I hope to see you again! 😀

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    • Move over Tom Hanks, I am catching up with you. 🙂
      Thank you very much – coming from you this is an honor.
      Because I have received such a wonderful award before I will pass this time, but do appreciate the nomination.

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  3. HI Spearfruit,
    I am a good friend of Melinda’s (Purpleslobinrecovery). Thank you for liking my comment on her post #3. I wanted to come over and introduce myself to you. It seems you were nominated for a blogging award. Congratulations. Nice to meet you.
    Janice

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  4. I’m 57 and started a couple of blogs four years ago in part because I went to college for Journalism and then Life hit. This is a way I can tap back into what always should have been pouring out of me. I sense we are in the same mode as far as what do we have left to contribute and can relate to your current outlook. Look forward to following!

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  5. You were kind enough to read “Learn to Fly” my post for the “Daily Post” which led me here, to your blog. I am 59, a stage 4 Cancer survivor who is blogging because it’s something I have always wanted to do, I enjoy writing and like yourself maybe my words about my life can help others. I have not led a boring life ( Cancer is my exciting life trophy) and don’t know many people who have and your short “bio” does not insinuate you have had a boring life either. What made you say that? I am a brand new, very green blogger with a whole lot to learn. I never dreamed anyone would read my post especially experienced bloggers but it’s all good as I have had some great blogs come my way and some day I can stand with them.
    Thank you for reading my post and I look forward to our paths crossing again.

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    • Hi, thanks for stopping by and visiting my blog. First of all, congratulations for being a cancer survivor. In my ‘About’, when I refer to boring, I really am referring to ‘tedious’, ‘tiresome’, ‘well-worn’, etc. In my many years of therapy, which included years of group therapy, I realized there are many of us that are the same; experiencing issues and sufferings in our lives that can be tedious and tiresome at times. I read your blog as I read many other blogs from WordPress ‘The Daily Post’ and other sources. I enjoy reading other blogger’s posts, because I can learn something from other people – as I hope they can learn something from me.
      I hope you are having a good day, again thanks for reading and commenting. 🙂

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  6. It’s amazing what just writing for yourself can turn into. That’s how I started my blog. I needed an outlet but I don’t like going out much lol a blog is perfect for connecting. I’m glad we crossed paths 🙂

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  7. Hey – I am 55, still get hit on, been head-hunted and even got a marriage proposal at work (I am married)!!! Age is just a number – I feel more chilled than I ever had and am no longer frightened of death. I take risks like traveling to Guatamala and Belize solo and use public transportation in Mexico. Life is too short not to have fun, if you can. Good luck with the blog. Kerry 🙂

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  8. Thank you for coming by my blog so that I could find yours! “Different” is a wonderful thing, looking around at all the awfulness in the world (which I don’t try to do, often).
    Looking forward to more of your work. 🙂

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  9. Oh My, that profile gave me shivers; it rings a lot of bells! I have been so surprised to find people being ‘real’ in these lovely blogs, perhaps more real than the face we present when we walk out the front door. It’s a pleasure to meet you! Lynda.

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  10. I agree that we all have disappointments and failures in our lives, Spearfruit. But we have successes too. I also agree that we can all only write about our own lives and wonder whether others can relate to any of it. I’m looking forward very much to reading your posts and finding out a lot more about you. Until we talk again, I’ll wish you a very Happy New Year,

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  11. I really appreciate your forthrightness in your “About” and you’re right, many of us like you, are out here living ordinary lives never knowing the extraordinary impact we are making on others. I just noticed you have a link to 70s music and I can’t wait to check that out as well as your posts. ~Steph

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  12. Hi there, I just had to stop over and say Hi. We have a mutual friend, Lynn (Lynz Real Cooking) and she speaks so highly of you. I love the concept of your blog, all about being real. I am so looking forward to going through all your posts. Have a great day.;-)

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    • Lynn is an amazing lady, I am honored to consider her a friend. Thank you for stopping by to read, comment and follow my blog. I will pop over to your blog very soon. Thanks again and I hope your day is a happy one! 🙂

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  13. Hi. I’m so glad Amanda (Ricks) has introduced us. Our stories are similar — as are our responses. I’m going to have to set aside a chunk of time to read your posts properly; I am getting so side-tracked listening to the music! Cheers, Su.

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  14. I’ve seen you around for a while – lurking as I skulk … coming out and saying the good stuff – the stuff that not everyone wants to say but they probably need to … so I took a stroll and I liked it and here I am, following and I’m sure I will like the journey 🙂

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    • Thank you very much. I experienced much negative early in my life and see positive and I hope to spread it to others. Life is short, let us live it to the fullest as much as possible. I appreciate you following my blog.

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  15. There is nothing wrong with an ordinary life right? The one where you have even one person who cares about you is worth living and enjoying…. Your blog is beautiful and I am happy that you are writing.. By the way I guess each one of us is near to death, since one can die any moment, I am in my twenties and I have lost two friends to life already and I don’t think that it is only the old aged people who die. What I am trying to say is, have fun. 🙂 You are pretty wonderful person. 🙂 Stay blessed.

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    • Absolutely nothing wrong with an ordinary life! Sorry to hear about your friends, enjoy their memories. I appreciate you taking the time to read, comment and follow my blog. I hope your day is a happy one! 🙂

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