A few weeks ago in my post ‘Larger Lymph Nodes‘, I wrote about having a scan and the results indicating the chemotherapy was not working. The results also indicated the cancer in some Lymph Nodes had grown and previous Lymph Nodes that were cancer free now have cancer.
Prior to receiving these results, Gary and I had a discussion. He said to me that based on my pain situation and the results of the recent scan both indicate bad news; he wanted to make some phone calls to my family. I have no issues with this because Gary has always had some form of contact with my family since my health situation started. My family certainly considers Gary as part of my family and truly respect and appreciate the role he is playing as a caretaker to me.
(note: since the very beginning of my journey with my cancer, all procedures and tests and treatments; all resulted in bad news. I have not once received good news in the past 1 ½ years. NOT ONCE)
So, the news of my cancer spreading and growing was received on a Friday; and Saturday Gary made a couple of calls.
He called my twin sister and he called my stepmom. Why call these two family members?
My stepmom is the caretaker of my dad who has Parkinson’s Disease. My dad’s health has deteriorated a great deal in the past couple of years. At times, it is very difficult to understand his speech and because of the medications he is on; he sleeps a lot. My stepmom has been a part of the family for over 30 years and is in contact with my siblings. Gary knew in talking with her, she in turn would talk with my siblings.
My twin sister, being the only female sibling, has a close relationship with my mom – they live in the same city. Gary did not want to call my mom directly as he was concerned about upsetting her, plus a sensitive matter was to be discussed and Gary felt it coming from her daughter, my twin sister would be better received from mom.
What was discussed in these phone calls?
Gary was honest and sincere and direct. He was caring and sensitive and calm.
He called these 2 people to let them know the truth concerning my current health situation. He told them I am in a great deal of pain to the point I am using a cane to help me walk. He told them I have lost almost 40 lbs. and my appetite is not always the best. He told them the results of the latest scan. He told them what is to come with regards to my future treatment and the slim possibility of positive results. He told them more than likely we would not make it to Texas for Thanksgiving. He told them he felt it important that they (my family) consider making plans to visit me here in Florida.
My future health situation is unknown and honestly I have nothing positive to look forward to with regards to future treatments – there are no guarantees.