her words, her love

2015, I started my blog on the 13th, so I missed Mother’s Day because it was on the 10th of that year.

2016, my post ‘about you, moms!‘, was dedicated to you the moms who follow my blog.

2017, I dedicate this special day to my mom.  I have written many posts about her and the importance of her is my life.  To recognize her for just one day is not enough.


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I wrote in last year’s Mother’s Day post –

I have written several posts about my mom and her importance in my life.  You can read more about her in these posts ‘Thanks Mom!‘, ‘Magnificent‘ and ‘Happy Birthday Mom‘.  She also has been mentioned in other posts as she was my main support during my years of major depression.  She is important to me and I truly think she is the best mom in the world! 

Since last year’s Mother’s Day post, I have also wrote this post about my mom ‘My mom, she worries‘.

My mom does worry as I think most moms do about their children.  She knows I am sick with a disease that is significant.  And at times on our phone conversations she will cry, I do not want her to, but she does.  I know I am important to her just as much as she is important to me.

But, 2 days ago, this past Friday, it was my turn to cry.  I called my mom because I needed her.  The pain level was high that day and I was having difficulty dealing with it and being optimistic about the future.  I cried on the phone to my mom and told her I was feeling tired and weak and worn down.  I don’t know how I was going to continue on.  I was showing my weakness to my mom and I told her I always want to show strength in dealing with my cancer and the affects it is having on my body.


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She told me no one can bear this much weight without showing some weakness every once in a while.  She said to let it out, let go of the frustrations and worries.  As I cried, I felt comfort in her words, my mom’s words have helped me many times in my life, her words, her love; they provide me something that no one else can give me.  That is my mom, my biggest supporter and encourager; she has always helped me during difficult times in my life as she continues to do so today.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom!

Happy Tuesday

It is not just Valentine’s Day‘, is a post I published a year ago today and it started with the following –


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Happy Valentine’s Day everyone, hope your day is a special one.

Today is a very special day for me, not only is it Valentine’s Day, it is also the birthday of my son #2.

He was born on this special day 32 years ago weighing in at 9lbs and 12 ½oz.  Yes, he was a big boy!

In today’s post, I write the following –

Yes, it is son #2’s birthday again – Happy 33rd Birthday Son

Yes, it is Valentine’s Day – Happy Valentine’s Day

For those that do not have a birthday today or celebrate Valentine’s Day –


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Recovery has started

3 days ago, I had surgery – 3 days ago, I had a Radical Cystectomy – 3 days ago, I had parts removed from my body.

Per webmd.com –

Radical cystectomy is the removal of the entire bladder, nearby lymph nodes (lymphadenectomy), part of the urethra, and nearby organs that may contain cancer cells. In men, the prostate, the seminal vesicles, and part of the vas deferens are also removed.

I am not a good patient and I hate hospitals; I am doing my best and the recovery has started.

As I spend time in the hospital I remind myself the pain will pass and although I am missing parts, I am still me.

Life today may not be wonderful and full of rainbows, but it will be again soon.

This song by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole is a favorite of mine, it warms my heart and brings a smile to me.


I will be in ICU for a couple of days and then the recovery begins.  

I appreciate everyone taking the time to stop by, read and leave many wonderful comments.  Due to my surgery and not knowing how I will be feeling; I am disabling the comments on my post today.  I need a few days of recovery and to grow accustom to the new me.  But know soon I will have comments enabled and I will be ready to respond to each one of them.

Christmas Movies

Okay, I admit it – I am a sucker for those made for TV Christmas movies!

Do you know what I am referring to?


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The Lifetime Channel Christmas movies –

Holiday Switch, Holiday Baggage, Christmas on Chestnut Street, A Very Married Christmas, Nothing Like The Holidays, All She Wants For Christmas, Holly’s Holiday, Home By Christmas, and the list goes on.






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The Hallmark Channel Christmas movies –

A Royal Christmas, The Christmas Ornament, Moonlight And Mistletoe, A Coral Christmas, Love’s Christmas Journey, Naughty Or Nice, The National Tree, and the list goes on.




Other Christmas movies –


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I’ll Be Home For Christmas, A Christmas Carol, Ernest Saves Christmas, It’s A Wonderful Life, Home Alone, Holiday Inn, National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation, and the list goes on.

And let us not forget the TV programs –

Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer, A Charlie Brown Christmas, Frosty The Snowman, Dr. Suess’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas, and the list goes on.

Why do I love these Christmas movies and programs of old and new?

The flikeringmyth.com website has an excellent article ‘Special Features – Why We Love Christmas Films’ that includes the following –

There’s always someone worse off than you

Christmas isn’t always a good time of year. You can be skint, having family problems and so on, but with some Christmas films there’s always someone worse off than you to put it in perspective. Think of George Bailey and the genius of It’s a Wonderful Life. Similarly to Pixar’s Up it takes you to the brink of depression before reeling you in for a big finale pay off. We’ve all felt like George Bailey at some point and his silver lining puts things in perspective for us.

So am I the only sucker for Christmas movies?  Apparently not!

Chicagomag.com article ‘Why I Love Cheesy Hallmark Holiday Movies’ has the following –

The Hallmark Channel refers to this season as “Countdown to Christmas.” For its fourth consecutive year, the cable network is pumping out a viewing-marathon-ready torrent of programming: 1,200-plus hours of original movies, holiday classics, and Christmas episodes of syndicated television series, according to Hallmark spokeswoman Pam Slay. Which, if last year is any guide, will be watched by more than 75 million people.

Okay, some of the current made for TV Christmas movies are not as good as the movies made years ago and some of the ones made for the big screen.  The plots are very similar and we know how the movies are going to end.  But I, like many other people keep watching; we watch because I think in today’s world we need to see these movies.  These movies bring some sense of joy and peace in our lives.  Maybe these movies help us recall the past; a past of innocents, when things were simpler.


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I am unsure of the true reason for so many people watching these movies including me.  All I know is I will continue to watch them.  What about you?




Today is the 6th month of my blog!  My anniversary post is something different than the usual posts I write.

Okay, I took the 11th word, from the 13th sentence from my 15th post and that word is ‘will’.

This post is about the word ‘will’.

Actors with the name ‘will’ –

Will Smith – Will Ferrell – Will Arnett – Will Poulter – Will Friedle – Will Sasso – Will Rogers – Will Estes – Will Shadley – Will Peltz – Will Geer – Will Yun Lee

Movies titles with the word ‘will’ –

Good Will Hunting – Stop! Or My Mom Will Shoot You – Iron Will – People Will Talk – Will – Me And Will – Girls Will Be Girls – Daddy’s Dyin’…Who’s Got The Will – Living Will – Cruel Will – Everything Will Be Fine

Quotes with the word ‘will’ –

Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. Og Mandno

Memories of our lives, of our works and our deeds will continue in others.  Rosa Parks

The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.  Confucius

Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.  Will Smith

Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.  Albert Einstein

Songs titles with the word ‘will’ –

I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston

My Heart Will Go On by Celine Dion

It Will Rain by Bruno Mars

I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor

We Will Rock You by Queen

Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow by Carole King

Today is the 6th month of my blog!  My anniversary post is something different than the usual posts I write.  What WILL next month’s anniversary post be about?


The Universal Laugh

On television I started watching the reboot/continuation of a series with many story lines taking place that will eventually come together.  One storyline is a young couple from Japan and they speak Japanese.  The subtitle or captioning is displayed in English for their storyline.  I am reading the captioning while they are speaking and one of the characters makes a joke and the other laughs.  This got me thinking, no matter the language we do not understand, the laugh is universal – a language we all understand.

I did a Google search on ‘International Laugh’ and found there is a world laughter day; who knew?  Wikipedia.org has the following –

World Laughter Day takes place on the first Sunday of May of every year.  The first celebration was on January 10, 1998, in Mumbai, India, and was arranged by Dr. Madan Kataria, founder of the worldwide Laughter Yoga movement.

Laughter Yoga says: Laughter is a positive and powerful emotion that has all the ingredients required for individuals to change themselves and to change the world in a peaceful and positive way.

The day is now celebrated worldwide.

I totally agree with this information, but did not realize this day was set aside for laughter; I will make an effort to remember next year.  Anyway, laughter is important in all our lives, it benefits our physical bodies and it breaks the barriers of languages, cultures, attitudes, believes, and many other facets of life that separate the human race.

There are many practices or traditions around the world, part of history, heritage, holidays, culture and customs.  I performed some research and found some examples –

Pagmamano is a gesture that symbolizes respect for one’s elders. It is akin to bowing, with the addition of taking an elder’s hand and pressing it to one’s forehead. The practice is predominantly found in the Philippines and some parts of Malaysia and Indonesia.

Another unique aspect of Filipino culture is bayanihan, the practice of literally moving an entire home to a new location.

When your wee babes are just cutting teeth it is hard to imagine that they will ever be so big that their baby teeth will fall out. The tooth fairy is such a sweet myth that we spin and simple really when you think about it, but in other cultures some kids throw their teeth on the roof of the house instead.

The Chinese child’s first birthday is also celebrated with a large feast and offerings to the gods and goddesses.

Jewish people all over the world observe Hanukkah, but perhaps there is not a more brilliant celebration than in Israel.

Kwanzaa is a weeklong celebration honoring African-American culture.

Congressional sessions open with the recital of the Pledge, as do many government meetings at local levels, and meetings held by many private organizations.

Okay, you get the idea.  There are many practices and traditions around the world – I think 1 day to laugh is not enough.  I think there should be a worldwide 5 minute laugh everyday by every country, by every culture.  This would remind everyone across the globe, that we can change ourselves and change the world in a peaceful and positive way.

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My Dog Likes Me Better Now She Is Unable To Hear Me

My partner and I previously had 2 dogs, one died a year ago – (previous post: My 5lb Friend). Our other dog is a Rat Terrier and about 11 years old. A couple of months ago while visiting family she unexpectedly ran into the street and was hit by a car. With her being a short dog and the car being a higher level SUV, she was very lucky and only sustained a concussion. After some recovery, she is herself again except for occasionally losing her balance when she is excited and the loss of her hearing. She can hear us clapping our hands when we want her attention, but that is about it.

Now that she has lost her hearing, I believe she likes me better than before the accident. Prior to the accident she was much fonder of my partner; she was always cuddling with him and followed him around everywhere he went. Now she seems to be very fond of me and pays me much more attention than before. Prior to the accident I was the one that fed her, gave her treats and sometimes rubbed her tummy and a course sang silly songs to her.

I believe my dog likes me better now she is unable to hear me because she no longer hears my voice. I think my voice is ok, but it is not a great voice: I would not make it in radio or television. I have a slight accent; a drawl when speaking and my voice is often not pleasant and sometimes I speak loudly and aggressively. I think now that my dog is unable to hear me with my aggressive, loud drawl voice, she likes me better because of what I do for her. I still feed her, give her treats, rub her tummy and even though she is unable to hear me, I still sing silly songs to her.  I also now use more pleasant facial expressions to display my love I have for her and I wave my hands to let her know I am paying kindness to her. I never paid much attention to this before because it did not seem important; but now that she is unable to hear me, she sees me more. I think now, instead of my voice being the focal point for her, now it is my facial expressions, actions and the things I do for her.

I started thinking more about this change in her and me –

What would we do or how would we react if we no longer heard people but instead focused on their expressions, actions and what they do? Those people who we disagree with their opinions, those people who say things we do not like, those people who we just do not like their voice. What if we pretend not to hear their voice and see their actions: what they are doing for others and maybe for us? We may see them differently and like them better now we are unable to hear them.

Just a thought.

Smile Workout

Besides working out my body’s muscles, joints and respiratory system on a daily basis I also do a smile workout. My face no longer displays a natural smile. I recently noticed this while practicing taking videos and pictures on my new smartphone. Not realizing, I took some videos and selfies of myself and upon seeing them I noticed the side of my lips were lowered and I appeared to have a frown. I never noticed this when looking at myself in a mirror, I guess when I look at myself I likely unconsciously change my expression.

I blame my now natural frown on years of unhappiness (with myself), usually being irritable and in a bad mood and always complaining about everything. I also blame gravity on my now natural frown. As we are all aware, gravity pulls everything down and keeps us grounded on this earth. Over the many years of my life, I believe my face muscles have been pulled down by gravity. I catch myself sometimes with my mouth open, my bottom jaw is lowered; I usually observe this while driving or watching TV or working on the computer. I think gravity has pulled my lower jaw down and now the muscles are weak and no longer strong enough to display a smile naturally.

It takes effort to lift my lower jaw and cheek muscles up to form a smile. I perform my smile workout numerous times throughout the day; when looking at myself in a mirror of just when the thought comes to mind. I think it is important for me to display a smile often; it portrays to people a happy person with a happy life. At this point in my life, I am happy with myself; the improvements I achieved over the years and my current life situation. I am happy in a relationship with a wonderful person who is my soul mate for life, I am happy to live in a great home and not have stress with work, finances or health issues.

I will continue to do my smile workout so I can display my happiness in my face and to also defy gravity.